ADAM

"Saying that you obey your father because he is right is almost a blasphemy.
You obey your father because he is your father. Period. Do not ever let anything interfere with that, or you will never become a good father. ".

=== My father told me, when I was about 18:
"Remember this as long as you live:
It is far more difficult to be a gentleman than to be a king, and doing the right thing is far more important than being right..
I want you to be a gentleman before and above anything else.
It is harduous, but you are one who can will it after 18 years of learning ."
I was never happier to obey, without worrying whether he was right.

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Tthat is sacred to us and "corny" to others.
We know "the others" are numerous enough to frustrate progress with their upbringing amd votes.
Until we prevail?
Not yet, if we have becone
"American-way-of-lifers": so busy with our rights and neglecting our duties...
The teachers themselves are "protected" into teachich rights without duties, stsrting with their unionized rrights to teach without their own eff0forts of correcting the students' homework.
The children watch TV instead, where they learn to appreciate "adult" erotic garbage, and that "family is a democracy.."
[imagine a sperm and an ovum electing acouple of parents or deposing them ...]
The TV producers get away with futile " parental control" devises to shift blame to marginalized parents
who blame the children, and the children learn to simpy ignore both parents and teachers, and then produce children as sex byproducts, plus new victims the System is ready to improvise.
And the System teaches the citizens to shed parental responsibility just like a nuisance. .
The A.W.O.L. System has become an embalming fluid for frivolous
life.

Several years ago, one of my chemists was a pleasant young man from India, beside being a desirable marriqge prospect for most girls in AmerIca.

One day he told me that he had to return to India to meet and marry a young lady his parents had chosen for him.
To my standard Western questioning about arranged marriage without the primary love motivation, he related examples of love marriages that ended in failure, or at any rate not as successfully as the competently arranged marriages.

His reasoning was so disarming that I had to agree with his posture, which became easier to understand the more I thought about it.
Among other things, one fact became more evident: being focused on each other, husband and wife have many temptations toward mutual hostile criticism and its consequences.
Even if that mutual focusing is motivated by love, which is mainly an emotion, no matter how poetic .
Hollywood couples, the epitome of famous love unions, have an astounding frequency of failures and divorces.
Sincemovie makers
try to survive by glamorizing tjeir actors, they influence the nation's taste and morality accodingly.
Reason suggests better alternatives.
When both spouses focus on a common interest (children, business, any activity or goal) instead of on each other, something is created like two parallel lines in the same direction that don't cross each other.
More durable affection can be derived from shared goals than from love and sex alone.
The remark between love-bird lovers, "I don't need to make love every single day"

can be devastating, whereas the same observation by a simply affectionate spouse is manageable.

Family includes and goes far beyond sexual gratification; but the nucleus of life reproduction and nurture is sublimed in love.
Yet, family is now under attack by the government, lawyers, militant homosexuals, ultra- feminists, deconstructionists and promiscuity addicts.
Government delivered the first crippling blow by lowering the majority age from 21 to 18.

Removing parental control and protection from immature youngsters has been the closest to national cultural and moral decay.
Besides, even among mature adults, the mere sex/love motivation can be just as irresponsible .
The devastating consequences show most obviously in our spectacularly high divorce and legal fees...
As mentioned above, our increased longevity and educational requirements alone should have raised maturity age to at least 23 or 25.
That sounds preposterous only at first, but theirdetails and statistics are indisputable.

Intrusive legislation added insult by giving under-educated power over the family, permitting claim-jumping homosexual marriages, plus unjustly assigned "Aid To Dependent Children". Welfare penalized marriage and made father's involvement very inconvenient.
Lawyers nailed th e family's coffin with "No Fault Divorce", w hich injected malignancy in every marital difficulty, to the lawyers’ delight..
Politicized psychologists blessed homosexuality with a "normality" label that branded normal people as "heterosexuals".
This denied -or at least contaminated the normality of male/female interaction in the reproductive familial normal marriage and puts homosexuals on an unnecessary government-condoned collision course with the “heterosexuals”, and desecrates what should be sacred (at least as a concept) in conjunction with reproduction.

Marriage is upgraded by the family, not by a meddlesome government.

Considering marriage an unconditional right for the homosexuals
facilitates a depraved substitution of reproductive union with typically anal/oral same-sex fornication, ruthless toward the children (which makes partial-birth abortion easier than abstinence) and a pandering for votes by irresponsible voters, whose number increases as bellicose "entitlements" are dispensed like "wheat and games to the populace" (which reveals politician's contempt for the general public: "Reelect me and get out of my way" or "Apres moil le deluge").
Feminazis, dictatorially man-hating women (and ignorant of history), see family as woman enslavement and patriarchal oppression.

Deconstructionists (who believe that morality and laws are just an arbitrary social construct to be "deconstructed''), enemies of our culture and morality, are dedicated to the demolitiion of the family and Western culture, which they aim to fragment with a malignant "multiculturalism" .
They fear family as the nemesis of big government and leftist fetishism.

Nuclear and extended families harmonize incommonly agreed values and form the basis of competent societies from the roots. Big government is imposed from above through proliferating regulations to support bureaucracies and politicized organizations.

They contaminate America by victimizing workers, women, children, minorities and races, to fabricate a lynching mood against family, individual initiative, competition, un-politicized education, values and secularized religion.
Democracy itself has been sacrificed to obtain the votes of anybody, down to crimnal illegal aliens and other malefic undesirables.
That corrupts democracy to rule of the mobs and mediocrity (ochlocracy)...
Does anyone care?
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SALVATION IN MULTIPLICATION

No one can dispute that members of the modern and prosperous nations deliberately limit the number of their children to a very minimum, while members of the poor "third world" nations tend to generate as many children as possible.
The reasons given are that more than one or two children are considered an unnecessary burden for sophisticated people who don't have the need of poor people to be supported in their old age by their children.

This situation, however, means that the population of the richest and sophisticated nations is decreasing at an alarming rate, while the poorest nations are growing at menacing rate.
Furthermore, an unintended consequence is that the thus increasing number of older people percentage in low reproducing nations causes the older people to become an un bearable burden for the younger ones..
Conclusion: reality proves that prosperous people have very similar concurrent reasons as the poor for producing as many children as possible. ..
When women, psychologists and other interestsd parties better understand the unlimited possibilities of raising superior generations within the family (the ideal environment), less and less women will be available for non-family actitities, and tlhe complete mother and father, (hopefully) will take over... And more children ... And more love...
And global survival will evolve far beyond he present stagnation,

One overlooked perspective the rich have missed and keep overlooking is that the burden of raising "too many children " is a seriously narrowminded visiom.
Children can be so educated that the addition of each child becomes an added factor for the fqmily, the same as any productive worker is an additional unit in an efficient system, without counting its potential creativity.

The present obstacle to this factor is that many rich parents are not sufficiently motivated and competen t to provide more education and trainingm for themselvs ,as well as for their chldren.
That suggests inspired and inspiring to our civilization .
In such a civilization, hooweer, the "advdrsary systen" would be a malignancy.
Instead, compoundting with each other, the members of the new society would cooperate unconditionally rather than compete.
The desired cooperation is already working in a football team, manuhfacturing plantt, and military action. Yet, each of them concerns one of two competing sides.
Socialism simply removes the opposing team in the equation, but the remaining one-team ends up fighting he whole world, because the team can only function and cooperate if they have to fight a common enemy. When Lenin
(1870-1924) sta ted that So cialists, might become one fourth of the world bound to elimiunate the rest of mankind, he didn't see further thatr such howdown, however, would only be the harbinger of self destruction, for the winners, because they would end up dividing and destroying themselves, because blaming and fighting is all they have achieved for millenia, under different names and with varioous scapegoats.
What would
Slavery or death do for any side? Even if we accepted such an.. unimaginative solurion, what would the survivors do?
Kill or enslave whom?
The drsmal "dance macabre" (Death's dance) is the self repeating gooal and result:..
Killing animals and plants every day, just for nutrition and survival, every day, is as necessary as breathing.

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THE INDISPUTABLE

The above contains enough argumentation in favor of the sacredness of the family and reality, with or without the religious background
(which ,in America, has been seriuosly homogenized with the A.W.O.L. ketchup).
The strongest reason to protect, promote, defend the ndissolubility of the family is the father/mot her/child trinity.
The question of guaranteed paternity demands the absolute certainty that the child's father be guaranteed beyond the mother's assurances that she copulated with no other man but the father of the child in question .
The assurance by the mother that she copulated with no other man may be lega lly sufficient to recognize wh the father is, but only on the basis that the mother's assurance must be believed and valid that she tells the truth unless someone proves that she is guilty of deception or adultery.
But how can she guarantee that she is telling the tuth?

Hereis a list of the assurance means:
1) The woman's main motivation should be not erotic pleasure but the desire to generate a child.
This may sound strange in our edonistic society, bu t a child who did no ask to be born is entitled to a lot and more.
2)The woman must be virgin before mating .
In that is the open secret of woman’s superiority: she was born complete, even if she is only a pot ential or sublimed bearer.
Man does not have that privilege and must continuously prove himself.This unavoidably makes the "Pater familias" the patriarch father of the family trinity.
3) The mother must mate with only her husband and have neither opportunity nor willingness to mate with anyone else.
For that, the Taliban amd other Muslim women are willing to dress like walking tents to prevent being seen and coveted by other men..
4) Her loyalty to her husband must be absolutely certain, and adultery must be impossible...
The main reason for woman's absolute sexual loyalty is the protection of f the truth about the child's paternity. The sacredness and full meaning of conception, birth and nurturing are still beyond our present reach.
Before today's DNA scientific methods, the only foolproof method to ensure the paternity truth has been strict total control.

The aggumantations for the present situation are hypocritical and ultimately evil rationalizations.
Tneir consequences are so numerous that they should be described inany volumes.

The objection against returning to "the old ways" to make a marriage work is that the old ways fail.
Therefore the new must be tried.
That could be valid only if the new were supported by better results.
Actually, the new style is simply worse.
|The "reasonings" that justify man'ssexual freedom are similar to those of cannibals that they MUST kill humans in order to eat their bodies.
So, judging rom what, before the recent DNA, we were resigned to accepting less than absolute paternity evidence assurances, we must recognize that the Talibans and other Muslims are more serious than we about insuring absolute paternity evidence without DNA.
Do we apologize to our children?
And do our ancestors apologize to us?...

For us all, FAMILY is the compendium of our personal primordial origin, genetic heritage within life as a “time and space blend”, and inescapable future until death (and p robably beyond).
[read the "cosmos conundrum" chapter in the www.higheryet.com website].

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Our first family volition acts are marriage and biologic mating of wif e and husband, for permanent togetherness and children generation.
The intense physical pleasure of the sexual mating is Nature’s enticement for us into copulating, and so continuing us through our progeny.
Responsible marriage in our culture is a permanent and sacred (with or without religion) union with the implicit commitment of “until death does us part”.
The implication “If it doesn’t work, we will divorce” is today’s glossed-over cursing of the meaning of marriage.
The radical difference between a 50/50 partnership and marriage is that each of the business partners is responsible for only 50% of the total, whereas each of the spouses is respomsible for the entire 100% of the total family and its connections; even if the other spouse fails or deserts.
It is unjust, but unavoidable if it is the only way to save the ship from sinking.
Family’s essence is permanent
MUTUAL, unconditional
lDEVOTION with often self-generating LOVE or affection, which can grow more as it gives.
I am not a pious winged angel, but I can at least testify, like most of us, that I never gained anything by hating, and never lost by loving (suffering for undeserved hatred or unrequited love is another subject).
Unfortunately, family's present laws make the modern American family an easy prey for the so called “shysters" (contraction of the German “Scheisse” and “Meister”
(= excrement master).
=== The premise of mutual unconditional devotion between and within the paremts and their children in the family is essential.
A responsible marriage reaches higher than business co ntracts or court decisions.
The family unity is as permanent as that of a living body.
Thus, if a body part or organ suffers, the whole body suffers and comes to the rescue, far beyond "right" and "wrong".
Theref ore, divorce--free societies can develop the family preserving solutions not even available in divorce-prone societies..
A great advantage of psychological and similarly concerned counseling or intervention is that the spouses and children involved are active participants in the process, without intruding judges and lawyers.
The best a lawyer or judge can do with a parent is to read the legal book of legal life with them together, but not interpret it to them outside of an artificial "legal meaning".
In my divorce, I faced a judge and two lawyers (the petitioner’s and mine (my wife being the petitioner) who acted as having discussed or decided my case in advance.
If true, that would make the divorce quesstionable.
In fact, I was hardly allowed to say anything they were not aware of, and they offered a weird barrage of “irrelevant” and “that is the way it is” pronouncements, evev if in other words.
They pushed aside most of what I was trying to say.

The absurdity was that, in spite of the limitztions, they really believed that their law specialization and life were enough to direct my family's future and mine.
"Family court and family form a game with lawyer foxes and spouse chichens in which the lawyers reveal the rues only after the game is over. Only after I lost my 50-year-old business to my wife, my lawyer revealed to me that he could not have opposed that because of "conflict of interest" his firm had with my wife's lawyer's firm..|
Why did he eveal only now??? Sadism??? Was the judge not informed? Anyone decent enough to disinfect the place and contents???
Anything immoral, cruel, sadistic, treacherous can be allowed as long it is made legal.
But no one would tell me to throw away (when just ready to start the planned biggest growth in 2006, when my wife strted the contamination)
the business I had founded and run and owned 100% etc. etc.
I just found out (Sepember 2008) what I thought to be a nnsense to even suspect: not only she removed any pictures and mentions of me from the catalogs but killed completely all the technical data sheets and descriptions I had completed in 8 languages (4 by me and 4 by other translators). A business likr mine is suicidal if ddeliberately neglets the enormous survival advantages of exports!
But how was I to mention te export and countless technical matters, wwhen all the judge and the lawyers were concerned with was that the corporation was still alive and kicking?
One could say, in oherence with the trial rules of the family law, that my argumentation was "irrelevant" for the above reasons, or because the judge chooses according to other criteria. And the lawyers only consider what would allow them to charge more (let's face it: it is true).
As it is a court rigid decision and the appeal had to obey the same findl deadline rigidity (my fault or not) my corporation family amd all related matters are frozen in a stupid I am face the obtuse Kafkesque "Tough luck, baby!", and all is kaputt in the long or shorter run... No mercy.

If it were handled by a psychologist, it woul be always openended and subject to corrections and improvements.

Tle complication is the psycho-impasse created by both lawyers:
they have created irriducible hostility... Myt wife told me as the divorce started: "I assure you I will do whatever the judge decides."

Then, she distorted to her advantage what the judge dicides.
Now she is in total charge, exhilarated by her new despotism ...as if it were all she worked (not at all) for all her life...
She also claims she can not find a whole group of all my personal, scientific and confiential notes original and condensed since 1947 to protect in a safe place while I was in the hospital with 4 broken ribs and a severe head concussion... to save for me. All is gone...
Probably I could be sued... Too bad, but reality remains the same, and it might awaken into action some one or many whor can be more convincing than I...
Tthis matter is affacting our Nation, which is waiting for effective heros beyond beyond the stubborn A.W.O.L
If not, China and/or India will take over world leadership.

Families in trouble need psychologists and other assisting help, not lawyers and court sentences.
The most dangeriys pitfall against the proper solution is the decision to seek a lawyer.
This starts an "adversary system" process in which each of the opposing lawyerstwo lawyers find their own best advantage in suborning both souses against each other, virtually with no holds barred.

Family conflicts should be appproached by psychologists, counselors, therapists, sociologists, clergy or similarly helping people, not by presumptuous one-dimentional specialists who want to direct and bleed people who need help, compassion, and reconciliation, not fragmwnting situations, punishment or victory and defeat..
In the Family, both te "winners" and "losers" should gain in conciliation and mutual help, far away from a greedy "adversary system" that can only validate football, boxing, baseball, etc..
In my divorce, they not obnly tried to reduce anything into a win/lose something they already believed to know, but the judge even suggested to my wife in open court to describe me as something like a solitary weirdo, antisocial, intractable...(which, even if true, cannot justify depriving me of the pre-marital corporation that I founded, owned 100%, and ran in all ways ssuccessfully for 49 years, ) kkk

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and other negative attributes and the precise opposites of what I am... .
Suddenly, she looked as she implored the judge not to let her go that far with her accusations and her own guilt complex...
She thought I had taught her enough, and she wanted to literally tear the business from me when I lost my eyesight .
My blindness, however, did not impede my running my business (scientific and business matters depend much more on compete nt reports I direct and receive than on my eyesight)..
The problem with my wife was her lack of those same attributes and initiatives I was training her for , in U.S.A. and abroad... (she had no one else to teach her my secrets).

That is why this writing will probably be submerged into oblivion in favor of fashionable legal prattle.
And cultural stagnation continues undisturbed.
Before going to the hospital fpr 4 brokenken ribs and severe head concus sion, I entru sted her with ALL MY 56 YEARS OF SECRET RECORDS AND TEGHNICAL AND FORMULATIONS THAT NOW SHE CLAIMS SHE CANNOT FIND Then she admitted she still has them.

that is a sadistic crime, not a misdemeanor, to hurt me more than any court could...

The children are afflicted by divorce-caused and -spreading decay .

Dismembering a marriage is comparable with dismembering its children (without the initial torture). The worst will come much later).
=== Divorce A.W.O.L. sryle simply cripples the family and its meaning.
The rotting has gone so far that most Americans have lost faith in family courts, lawyers and even the family itself...

Biblical Sodom and Gomorrah were
probably going through that phase before collapsing; unless they were like other vanquished who were attributed the conquerors’ vices. Psychologists call that “projection” (the same as I learned about my wife).

The hidden divorce damages to the family are the worst, because we can not correct what we are unaware of.
To handle marriage as a legal rather than psychological- cultural and moral complex is like handling migraine with hammer blows.
Almost every significant family aspect can reach higher than buisines laws and courts of law can comprehend or handle.
The irresponsible defaming of Drs. Freud, Jung, Adler, Frankel and the Viennese School in favor of our legal "adversary system" fetish is still worse than favoring our primitive system of measurements against the internationally adopted " Metric System".
The above comparison is the more fitting, the longer we ignore the overwhelming advantages we would obtain with the Metric System.
The virtually childish "adv ersary system" can mostly produce merciless winners and resigned losers.
That may be suitable for sports but it may become incredibly cruel in real life.
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Egregious instance:
December 2007. Our 23-roo m house was up for sale, because my in court victorious wife wanted it (it was magnificent for the big parties I always loved and she secretly hated), to complete her victory (well, now I write insead of partying).
We found a buyer. I was left alone in the big house, because my wife had decided it so; blind and without driving means, I was left alone with a head concussion there.
I fell again and broke four ribs, in addition to the severe head concussion I already had....
After a few days hospitalization, I was back home      and my wife had started to show the house to sell my belongings she did not want.
4 rooms were for my over 3500 books, computers and other imstruments, photo seuipment storage units, instrumentation and office furniture for my computers, cameras etc.
It was decided that I would move immediately into a 3-room condo we were purchasing so that the new owner could move in the big house fast.
The buyer suddenly changesd his mind and the matter is going to court...
And I am stuck. The realtor blames my exwife, but his strategy was wrong.

I showed to my wife the three shelves were I had about 8,000 secret formulas from about 1948 underwaater adhesives to electronic encapsulation, records of all kinds, etc. I entrusted al to my wife before another hospital trip... About 10 mmonths later, stiill insist she cannot find them... I always suspected she has a heavy sadistic streak...

cpmfodemt oa; mpteanco mpounds and notes I had formulated since 1948, and file cabinets with other precious information, confidential records, memories etc.
In my handicapped state, I could't carry nothing, Therefore I had to stress that both of us had interest in savin g those documents, records etc. . [I had not the slighted suspition that she would stab me in the back while I trusted her] She promised a secure place in my 30,000 sq.ft. plant (now fraudulantly hers).
Since then, I have been waiting and imploring her for 9 mont hs to let me have the above described personal preci ous belon gings, after donating 1263 compounds (completely described records and production instructions good for many years to my corporation (now hers by court order based on wrong and false nformation)..
First, she said she could not find them... Then, she claimed that the records belonged to the corporation... Finally she promised to let me have them...
|They include unique personal pictures and memories of my childhood, parents, confidential info going back two generations.
She cannot find them... Sadism?
I am still waiting...
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== Many pundits define "irrelevant" what they cannot understand or handle.

I have often heard:

"But we have no time for all of that..."
That is precisely the point: tell the victims that:
"We have no time for what requires months and years of guided or self- discipline ...
You must pay our fees for giving you our obtuse instructions how to pay us...
”That is the way it is... “

When spouses want to div orce, family law illogically supersedes all other laws, in favor of incompetently patched -up assignments of chunks of goods, properties, about subjects they cannot understand properly.

To wit:
Letting my wife (a reluctant lawyer) take over my (chemist and businessman) international chemical manufacturing corporation would be worse than letting a chemist take over a big law practice, or letting a member of the Church of the Extended Middle Finger handle our scientific problems.
The judge split everything 50/50 on a quantitative, not qualitative basis and gross payment basis, without knowing that the wife would get mor e than double her husband's income through countless types of business and other exempt exp enses alone, like legally and honestly maneuverable business expenses, world travel, conventions, conventions in Paris, London, Rome, Paris, Bruxelles, Ostende, Ravenna, Amsterdam, and similar famous places, hidden legitimate costs and expenses of all kinds, all at complete discretion of the corporation president... even hosting all kinds of events in many ways far beyond those of a small store.
Our divorce first judge B.S. agreed that my corporation needed me, as the creator and formulator of all products my corporation has ever conceived, manufactured and sold so far for 49 years in the U.S.A. and abroad...
My court disaster began when the judge’s ordered that I was not allowed to fire my wife from my business (according to an incongruous family law).
She immediately began to disrupt our plant operation.
The chaos that it can cause in a chemical plant is incredible...
I called my lawyer to restrain her, but he was on a retirement vacation. His lawyer son had taken over, but he just ignored my continuous urgency calls about my wife’s relentless disruptions for ab out a whole month. ..
I had never experienced such an obtuse cynicism.
By acting as he did, she increased my damages manifold, with consequently higher legal fees.
Take the case of my $15,000.00 present to my son for his college B.A. college graduation.
I suggested that we could find a damaged yacht for that money and rebuild it like new with my especially formulated materials , polymers and methods, as a full fledged company research p roject to develop new compounds for laminated and other boat repairs, etc..
That would at least quadeuple the value of his boat...
Wonderful... but he and my wife went on a lunatic binge of trying damaged boats without the minimum competence...
Like many beginners, they thought that what they had just learned was the ultimate;
They even advanced money to a questionabke boat dealer for a boat that could not be restored at all... My half century experience could see what their improvised knowledge cold not.
As I tried to stop it, they both turned against me with absurd accusations...
The whole project died and the money was swallowed in their unknown manipulations.... (she never wrote me any report).
The same psychologist who had declared me a “genius” defined both my wife and our son “incurable” and “hopeless”.
Yet, I am sure that finding a way to motivate them would have saved them from the disastrous consequences of traying tooo late (a great way for lawyers to capitalize on tragedies).
Meanwhile, I had no choice but to hire a new lawyer, who used that opportunity to cause even worse disruption... [that is one of their ways to cause and increase the troubles, expenses and juicy legal fees ].
The lawyer referral service gave me only one name, who wanted a $10,000 "retainer" before even knowing the case...
(“it is against our ethics (?) to give you another name after you have refused the previous one”. ,which protects shysters) and forces the clint to become their victim.
I was told it was not good to hire a lawyer against one of the same town. So, I checked in the next town...
I was not told (only after the fact) that family law had automatically replaced corporation law in a divorce court...
I tried to represent myself, but the judge would not communicate with me in (or out of) the court room without my lawyer, whether I accepted him or not....
Thus, since I could not improvise a lawyer on the spot, I was forced to use one who resented my having exposed his deplorable “ethics”..
Now I live in a 3-room condo (after forced to vacate my 23-room house) . My ex-wife will receive the money to share with me 50/50 some time... Being blind, I cannot drive, and gasoline is too about $4/gal.
Whereas I am confined in my 3 rooms all nights and days, workdays and weekends, my wife uses the business for countless expenses, vacations and other amenities, a new Cadillac, and takes weeks-long vacations in U.S.A., Latin America and Asia.
I don’t mind my ex-wife’s comfort and amenities; but the t50/50 % equalized partition ordered by the law was at least ignored by the court, although I was the only founder, president, 100% owner, the only chemist and creator of ALL activiies and, products my business manufactures, and my wife was only being trained by me to run it and then inherit it.
Two lawyers were unable or unwilling to explain my case.
They and I are ethically incompatible.
The lawyer previous to them ignored my frantic calls for help with [probably] intentional cynicism to make my troubles more profitable for him...
The corporation (100% mine, selling over 2 millions a year until the judge gave it to my relatively incompetent wife
(who was still being trained by me
to inherit...)
Now I should deppend on my ex-wife charity (if I can proudly crawl and beg for her unpredictable good will). She is really not the only one at fault, but... we may be sliding into an expanded blunder..|
[A hidden conspiracy I don't know how to discover? My wife could not have originated such a dwspicable scheme)]

It is easy to blame the judge, but the style used by the lawyers on both sides made my objections "irrelevant”. Anything that would lower the lawyer bills was not allowed.
(The trial is over and my lasyer still refuses to give me usual complwrw trial files... I will have no chance to avoid deadlines etc...)). The judge tried again a wise idea:"What about a separation rather than divorce?" ...
Both the lawyers hurled a scandalized “OH N0”
My wife's was blamed for the involuntary munificence: we were being set up for more and fatter fees.
After all, she was the “no fault” petitioner...
My function was to train her into more responsibility and skills to finish me and even kill my past (something not even the gods are allowed to do...).
I had to impersonate the curse target:
“ I will drag you all the way down, if it costs me scrubbing floors on my knees for the rest of my life!”
What can a judge do?
Allow the two bulls (her lawyer and mine) into the china-shop?
I got the usual bull droppings, as in the local legal folklore (or is it nationwide?).
Is it “irrelevant” or “it is the way it is?”
“I made her rich from relatively ZERO and she made me poor .
After all, we were raised from the two opposite extremes:

=== She was raised in a divorce/hostility-shaped "family" (most likely inextinguishable resentment against a deserting father),
===I grew in a permanent mutual devotion family, in a divorce-free land.
For some inexplicable reason, the judge was shown the absolute unmitigated opposite.

The only solution would be putting the family back together before the psycho complexes complete the contamination of an artifially guily woman and her emotionally-clone son.
On the other hand, the popular idea of dividing property 50/50 is a monstrosity of uneq ual merits
(It is politically incorrect to say it. Even if it causes our civilization to rot).
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“Irrelevant”: .What or who can protect us against such legal outrages, in a game where the rules are revealed only when the game is over?
Too often I was told that it was too late for me to say what I was not told before!..
Why was I not warned in advance lf the deadline?
IRRELVANT...

The above described seems to accuse my wife, but they pulled even her mind’s and emotional strings.
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We all know but cannot prove that some entice us into still more troubles, because "that is the way it is".
When my last lawyer recognized that what he was asking was immoral, he gingerly added: "But it is in the contract you signed..."
Unfortunately, our new laws make the modern American family a hapless victim.

Tthey know that what I describe above is honorable and right.
Yet,tThey don't umderstamd how detrimental it is to interfere with the course of a natural family dynamics, just because it is "legal" instead of helping its natural recovery... "family court" against expert judgment and real merits.
One can pompoously announce that the negative logarythm of the concentration of the hydrogen ions in an electrolitical solution is "irrelevant" in your mind or court room, but I have a sacred right of adducing it to support sunething pertinent to an appropriqate subject being examined in court.
My history as husband and father has been and is flawless, completely dedicated and devoted to my wife and children, whom I even taught to speak Italian and German fluently in their best grammar and syntax, as required in high schools. I also brought them to various countries and schools in Europe.
Only with mty 3rd wife and our son it did not succeed, because they were unwilling and hostile.
They both quit psychotherapy they badly needed. . I never dserted any family member, or refused them back, nor deprived them of anything whatsoever.

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I tried to relate all that in court... They never understood my past, my competence and activity and gavemy corporation and building to my wife, whom I was trainint to succeed me.
She immediately eliminated the 8 languages catalog translations (4 by me and 4 by other translators) and all nternatoinal activity from our catalogs and web site, erased any picture and mentions of me in all our litrature and records, made all my over 50-year old records, formulations, my personal and confidential records, personal memories etc. Then she said she could not find then anymore....
I was tempted to end my life; but then I would not be available to help her and our son, if needed... kkkk
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Imagine, now, a few hours of temporary patches in court to resolve intricate financial, business and life-long problems. .. into an absurd sweep of psychological, emotional, cultural, religious and indefinable puzzles treated with frivolous money and property allocations, without resolving the real human problems.

Many pundits define "irrelevant" what they cannot handle...

Presumptuous legislators have found ways to be pompously dishonest.

When spouses divorce, family law supersedes all other laws, often in favor of improvised assignme nts of chunks of goods, properties, even subjects they c annot understand.

Letting my wife (a reluctant lawyer) take over my (chemist) interna tional chemical manufacturing corporation would be worse than letting a chemist take over a big law practice.

The judge split everything 50/50 on a simplistic estate and salary basis, without understanding that realising that the wife would get more than double her husband's income through countless types of business and other exempt expenses alone, like legally and honestly maneuverable business expenses like world travel, conventions, customer entertainingy, hidden legitimate costs and expenses of all kinds, all at complete discretion of the corporation president... even hosting all kinds of events in many ways far beyond those of a store.
Upon eloquent peroration of my first lawyeer , our divorce's first judge (B.S.) agreed that the corporation needed me, as literally the only creator and formulator of all products my corporation has ever produced and sold so far for 49 years...
Now I am forced to live on the limited and uncertain fixed income from industrial tenants of a building about 80 miles away; I am blind, therefore cannot drive, and gasoline costs around
$4.00/gallon...
My wife's new Cadillac and fuel are corporation expense...
What now?
Living on my ex-wife charity?. She is really not the only one at fault, but... we may be slding into a morass.

“That is the way it is”
There is no question that despicable abuses were committed in my case, but lawyers wouldn’t see it , unless it can be shaped and dressed as an artificial legal
But deceiving, as:
=== All men are create equal... what it really means is...
=== Inalienable life.. what it really mean is...
=== Liberty... what it really means is...
=== ...happiness... what it really means is...|
=== Democracy... what it really means is...
=== Majority age down to 18 instead of up to 23-25.
=== As if the above were not enoughl, they added
"H0WVEVER” after each of the TEN COMMANDMENTS...
===Want more?
In a traditional patriarcal family, such dilemmas are much smaller problems, for they have solutions for reconciliation as a goal, not arrocant sentences into cynical family fragmentation.
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Many incongruous judgments are forced on exhausted victims

in the land/home of the free/brave.

We know but cannot prove that some charge us for services we neither request, nor need, and they don’t do also when they deliberately entice us into still more troubles, because "that is the way it is”.

The surviving honorable attorneys are besieged by the shysters into adopting the same fraudulent methods with frivolous appearance of honesty.

When the judge herself asked my wife in open court to confirm what kind of lonely unsociable weirdo I am, I knew that someone had fed the judge truth in reverse.
My wife’s lawyer?

A silent but sceming friend of the judge and mywife, whom my wife had flooded with lies?

My 2 younger sisters and I (now 84, born 1924) were born in an old industrial family in Italy since 1727) with the great advantage of personal private tutors from infancy to college, in Italy and Germany.
I would choose to be born again in the same hard working family and same upbringing, from my same very devoted father and mother, and the same tutors.
Such a pattern should become a social environment of success for all.
Of my paternal family,only my (8- years younger than I) sister and I are still alive.
I landed in USA on Jan. 30 1955 after 4 years in South America.

Contrary to the judge’s statements in open court , (it is still a mystery how she got the exact opposite of truth about me frpm whom) I was and am gregarious, very sociable, communicative, with propensity to humor, playing, sailing, fencing and many sports and parties’ activities of all kinds... since hildhood, etc..
I must "boast" that because that is exactly one of my opponent's most typical weaknesses,
Sometimes I think my opponent may develop schizoid-paranoia, perhaps complicated by complexes... and narcissism, like many...
As to me, I have a cocktail of symptoms with touches superficial manic depression, with a rainbow of various symptoms as a worrier...
NOTE: it is undeniable that I have written at least 700 pages in this website, a lot about her and me.
My opponent never wrote anything about self, me and our interaction. Why?..
Everyone has a share of problems, like most of us, so, I will try to avoid the matter for obvious reasons. As to my social life, it has always been known that I always organized plenty of parties and other activities, both in Europe and America, with 30 to over 100 people in my 23- room home and more in public events. I was program chairman of my party in the 1970s, organized all sorts of social events in America and abroad.|
My opponent is the loner who suddenly leaves a party, who has nagged me violently all our married life and accused me of "harassing" her, who proctically “forced” me to buy a big mansion after I had bought a 3 acres lot and architect plans to build a house on it...I campaigned to have my wife elected president of the local Symphony Association to build her status and influence, where antagonism prevailed (they deserved it, but she was not diplomatic, nor would I have been)...
Shysters can concoct documents and reactions to force a hapless respondent to pay outrageous bills, or end up in the Tower of London.
Recently, I got a fraudulent $33,000 bill for actions and documents I had neither ordered nor approved.
And more recently $33,000 from another lawyer specialized in charging for unknown, unneeded and non-requested service without my knowledge that no one ever   knew, needed or noticed.      and more lunatic charges I forgot...

He concluded with his “dignified”   behavior: “you know the judge is not on your side] ... I’ m reducing the amount to $24,000, and if you pay I still need additional $15,000 in advance for the appeal...”
I paid... what else, but I knew that I would lose the appeal in such an environment, and more money, because of his conflict of interest that drives him to malpractice...|
A psychologist told me my wife “projects” to me by attributing to my doing to her what SHE does to me..
[I dislike what I am writing, but the style fits the subject]
Now she seeks reasons to justify her virtually throwing away one of the most beautiful and prestigious
houses in town, I am to live in a 3-room “condo” , and she still has at least 3,000 of my books, at least fifteen 3’x7’ book-shelving units; big furniture, my personal memories and family documents from many countries where I lived in the past....
... Our “lawyer referral service” only produces specimens l ike him who wanted $10,000 in advance only to look at the case whether they accept it...
I tried the newspaper again, but even they are afraid of lawyers.
Then, $250.00 or more per hour paper work (plus various extras)
$150-200 or more per phone hour of frivolous conversation..
The divorcees' losses are "irrelevant" or the sacrosanct "That is the way it is!".

The number of unmarried couples is multiplying like flies.
"Only suckers marry..." is a repidly growing philoosophy, rather than a joke .
Our indignant reaction to it is          called "IRRELEVANT" by lawyers with or without guilt complexes.
I know they have freedom of speech, but what would cost them to enrich their vocabulary?
The lawyers alone ALWAYS win in our diabolic "adversary system" fetishism that replaces marital cooperation when lawyers intervene,
instead of restoring it with professional psychotherapy, family counseling, guidance and related methods. KksHowever, each of them can be detrimental if they are connected with pro-divorce professionals.
They cannot make any more money unless they dismember our families.
The American "adversary system" fetish kills mutual devotion...
Divorce lawyers have adultery, deception, discord, cruelty , depravation, sadism, abuses and all kinds of misdemeanors and crimes as their convenient allies for fat income (all deviously protected under "no-fault", or "irrelevant ", or "That is the way it is" designations).
The best proven commitment of marriage is: a permanent, mutual, unconditional devotion system "until death does us part".
In sounds intimidating at first, but it would be not only better, but simpler and vastly more satisfactory.
Family is where the nation start. It would be Satanic yo poison its roots.
Without a solid, anti-divorce family, the nation perishes.
================= Ancient Greece and Rome are the undisputable cases in point.
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Greece (under the Macedonian Alexander the Great) had already defeated Persia (today's Iran) in the 4th century B. C ; but the Persians kept menacing Greece and Europe, until the Greeks transformed much of their society into a warlike power, by decreeing that their little boys be torn from their families and camped and trained to become fearsome invincible heroes about the 4rd century B. C.
This, however, hollowed the family, beside completely marginalizing the father figure into little more than a stallion.
Thus, the Greek society and culture were ready to sink into the sands of forgettable history.
Rome was so alarmed that they hurried to make Greece a Roman province, and that made the Greeks Roman citizens, permeated with the spirit of "Patria Potestas" (paternal power) legislation that restored family unity in mutual life-long devotion..
That became also the active kernel of the Roman, Christian and Western World Civilization.

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In our presently perceived reality, family harmony can only be restored or created with help of educators, psychologists and/or other pro-family counselors or clergymen .
We need legislation and training that protects family's permanent unity to reaches beyond primarily "eroticism based marriages".
The divorce-court trial is an abomination in which both "hired guns" are paid to shoot not each other, but only their own employers.

Then, the longer they dispute, the more the lawyers are paid, and both disputing contestants pay for everything in any case... no matter which side "wins".

Besides, the court action follows and uses laws like card game rules, rather than moral reality, as in a poker game..
T he reason why so many divorce judges oppose self representation of the contestants is that their realistic argumentations on the basis of naked truth would force unpleasant relevant realities to the stage.

In moral reality, family conflicts should be resolved not by lawyers, who profit in direct ratio to how many juicy delays and difficulties they can contrive.
Apparently, the petitioning spouse (the one who starts the divorce action) may be adulterous, violent, cruel, profligate, abusive, alcoholic, depraved, or worse...
It is the family lawyers’ consensus that they side with the "petitioner", because that causes more court actions and the highest payments to the lawyer's habit of undertaking expensive actions without the client's approval (the contract surreptitiously allows anything the lawyer wants to do,
Not long ago, I read that USA has 80% OF THE WORLD'S LAWYERS.
What are we waiting for? Contact non-shyster lawyers!

The typical FAMILY is connected with reproduction .
Years ago, an itinerant religious missionary challenged me with the question: " What is the purpose of life?"
I improvised: "Reproduction!", from the depth of my guts, where truth is said to need neither intelligence nor evidence.
Probably dolphins could have a better answer, since they are reputed as the only known animals with a larger brain than humans'.

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As father, mother and children unity, where love and mutual devotion have been converging since at least 50 or more centuries ago, the relative percentage of crimes, murders, violence,, all kinds of crimes and moral turpitude have not diminished, in spite of our technologic advances, beyond all our dreams or nightmares, from the raw hide to cybernetics...

Moreover, human life still needs to kill other life (of animals and plants),to survive and thrive on the death of those we kill and devour..
The difference between us and predators like the wolf or the shark is that, whereas the predators must find, pursue and kill the prey, then dismember and eat it, most modern humans only eat what other specialized people have chased or raised, killed, harvested and prepared what most of us eat.
The sane (without chase) happens with the plants we eat.
By distributing our survival functions to diverse persons, we have created a society that pivots around the family and irradiates from it.
A civilization that fails to start from the family to connect the tasks and developments together is destined to perish.
Perhaps we should be inspired by the mysteriously superior dolphins (as explained above).
Probably they developed solutions we can not even imagine...., beyond swimming for thousands of miles and days..., (dolphins may have worthier ideas/goals, naked truth without hypocrisy.. and more.. Almost everybody knows the usual answers about marriage and family, and we have incredibly more divorces than our failing marriages could justify.
Marriage laws seem to benefit only or primarily "family lawyers" (they disdain being called "divorce lawyers, due to their guilt complexes) who dismember countless families, progenies and descendants, beyond national disaster.

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On a dark Friday evening, June 23., 2006, a server came to my home and delivered me a "court order". I asked what it was, because I am blind. He said "You must appear in court on July 3.... You have plenty of time" .
I immediately faxed a copy of that dovument to my lawyer.
The server and I did not see that it was a "constraining order" to leave my corporation premises and my 23-room house with over 3,500 books in my 3-roorm office fullof customized computers, printers, night-and day cybernetic and other eqipment only I cokd use, where I worked day and night.... for operations and all decisions and activities.
Therefore, all my corporation executives quit, except the one who remained as the new "plant manager", presumably under me,. but I was ousted by a msinformed at the measure was "temporary" , it remained unchanged for 20 MONTHS) as of now, February 2008, and still on for no real oral, written, or otherwise valid reason.
I received no salary, no support for any reason or plan: I only survived on life savings cash...
I had 23 employees and I was the only chemist. THAT MEANT a MICKEY mOUSE chemical OPERATION ON OUR PROCESSED COMPOUNDS AS SENT TO THE CUSTOMERS.
Now (June 2008, 2 years thereafter) we have 11 empoyees left, because the executives (who quit within weeks) don't trust my corporation without me...
No lawyer informed the judge aboout the true ("irrelevant") situation only I knew..in spite of my continuous warnings.
Now I am 84 ( as of Jan j. 1st, 2008), a chemistt and falsely expelled entrepreneur, deprived of my overdue salaries and bonuses, sole formulator of all Abatron produced chemicals and ccompounds, designer of the plant and all prooduction processes, still deprived of virtually all personal belongings, over 3,500 books and countless other personal possessions, including ALL my chemical(about 8,000 formulas, scientific books and records I entrusted my wife with while was incapacitated with 4 broken ribs and a severe head concusstion, happened when I was left alone and blind in my 23 empty 23-room house.

Iam the
founder (since 1959), presieent, and sole owner of 100% shares ) of a sussessfullo,chemical manufacturing Illinois corporation.
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For the records:
In 1979, I, 55 (chemist, industrialist), married MW , 33, (luckless lawyer), who thus moved immediately from her 2-room apartment to my PRE-MARITAL NON-MARITAL 16-room brick Tudor house I had built years before on top of the most scenic hill in SH
In 1984-5, she gave up jer law practice and gradually joined
MY PRE--MARITAL NON-MARITAL CORPORATION, to be trained to manage and then inherit it from me.
In 1980, our beautiful son was born. As both she and I have strong personalities, we faced compatibility problems that could be easily defined under our corporation law and my own corporate bylaws.
Yet, that solution was absurdly sidestepped in about 2005 by distorting it to an incongruous family law pattern that handled my corporation as if it were a marital paint store...
Like my house, and since 1959, MY CORPPORATION was PRE-MARITAL.

Psychologists defined me a "genius" (upon court-ordered tests and 4 month treatment of my wife, our son and me) on a level above 99% of the American opulation.
My wife refused to reveal their findings about her (but it was court-ordered) by the same clinic about her, until she and a psychologist who would please her with a very superficial “check-the-squares sheet-at home”. When I forced him to run her test in his office, he over-reacted and blundered into a test with false statements.
My (ex)wife is scared by any psychological test of her in depth; which aggravates her hostility.

T hat suggests the urgency of finding a way to nmotivate the suffering recalcitrants to change or improve themselves, or whatever bothers them..
In a marital impasse handled in court rather than by psychotherapy or other counseling, the tested person may be crushed, and the "winner" may develop a life-long guilt- and/or another -complex.
The apparently prejudiced (by whom?) judge made an irreversible decision, due to the misleading behavior of appar ently both lawyers. frequent in our over-burdened trials) likely aggravated by crass truth falsifications.
It fragmented our family and cursed our son's future.
Ironically, it made me a betrayed victim who won all his life, and was suddenly back stabbed when he became blind and was about to retire in a suffocated trumph.

So, she was misguided and suborned by malevolent "friends" toward a disputed "no-fault divorce" which became a nightmare in a misguided court... Both lawyers won, and both spouses were devastated.
Especially I, the respondent.
If such problems are resolved as described, this march downwards will continue....

Wednesday, Juky 2, 2008.
I went to a lawyer to try to appeal against the last divorce court order: + Irrelevant”.
How can a simple missed date, or an irresponsible action by a forgetful, or even intentionally misbehaving family member or his/her lawyer play havoc with the entire destiny of a family??
Isn;t FAMILY the basis and substance of society, nation and mankind?
Are our soldiers giving their lives for our lawyers or our families?
This is one of the ways to prove that family matters can only be resolved with the open end and creative methods inspired by harmony, devotion and indissolubility of the family, lry alone INDIVIDUSL PROPERTY RIGH5S.
Any judge’s family decision can not match the parental “patria potestas”.
In the process, the family and culture were saved rather than marginalized as in Greece two millennia ago.
Therefore historians have declared America’s 3 centuries a worthy heir of Rome.s nearly 28 centuries thanks main;y to our enduring family pattern.|
Family laws only provide static solutions that freeze our interactions and growth. No hostile “adversary system” dictates should stop the flow of family progress.
Court-granted money or rights stop there without assistance.
Money may only prolong the agony..
We need educators, psychologists, coaches, and all pssible help toward fluid evolution.

Final court actions without appeals please only judges and lawyers while they can permanently handicap their victims.
Guilty’/not-guilty stands, “adversary system” and their legal fees are like acrasive grit in the gears of family and civilization.

John J. P. Caporaso.

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About 75 years ago, I was in a house in an old European country and Catholic environment, playing evening games with other children... (most names and details are avoided for privacy)..
Suddenly, the main entrance opened wide and a group of adults entered agitated, speaking .around a man who answered to all with great concern:
"Yes... he broke his wife’s arm... He should be punished. But calling the police would have his great career stupidly destroyed, his wife and children would become a criminal's wife and marked children..
He must repent and change to his wife's satisfaction,
We must find a way to convince him to do so..".......
[My free translation from his language]
About 10 yeas later, the lady victim of that event met me by chance and told me how grateful she was to the man who saved her husband, her and the children from the merciless consequences they would have all suffered if her husband had been arrested... Especially her children, “... they would have never known what they would have missed,,,and how fortunate we are to be all happy together...”
The last sentence struck me as a sudden revelation of perhaps millions of divorce children in U.S.A. who will never know what
their original growth development could have been...
The more experience I gain, the more I wonder about the hidden consequences of neglected factors.

Divorce is a curse that may contaminate irreversibly anything it touches. Including the children's children...

A divorce lawyer can only prosper by helping spouses to fragment their own family to death.
A "family lawyer" who rescues a family into harmony will earn much less than by helping them into evil mediocrity,

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There are numerous situations where dunces form spontaneous alliances against people they consider smarter, and thus dangerous enemies, according to football-type "adversary system" or psycho-complex postures.

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Killing any member of a family is not as virulent as the divorce curse spreading from poisoning the family unity and devotion.
Dismembering the family for marital disagreements is like spraying gasoline on a house fire.
The stupider or guiltier spouse can hire a divorce lawyer and transform a family of potential great people into a group of permanently wounded wrecks that the judge embalms in their legally protected misery.
The poetry and reality of "until death does us part" sustain the atmosphere our short life needs for facing eternity.

Death is the threshold to immensely more than just pious angels with clumsy wings.
The more we reject our pre-divorce life, the more we poison a past that can be a fertile basis for new developments.
One unfortunate consequence of pro-divorce believers is their self brainwashing that divorce was the better choice.
This self deception can cause subconscious complexes beyond help.

In some American states, lawyers promote the "no-fault divorce" and 50/50 glib wealth partition courts can seldom grasp.
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Marriage for looks fails easily when looks are all there is.
We require a license for driving a car, after proper tests and serious training.
Marriage is by far more difficult, than any diploma, but it is allowed without training, test, or any proof of needed maturity (which has been officially lowered to a immature age of 18 years, whereas it should have been raised to 23 or 25).
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There are no publicly competent psychological systems capable of developing or testing marital compatibility.
One gets away with the excuse that marriage is a "natural right".
The same as with animals?
Another natural "right" is to have children.
Many parents want children the same way children want toys.
It is not difficult to imagine the educational quality in store for those "toys".
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What about the implicit right of the children to be conceived and raised by responsible parents, above minimum levels of health, education, comfort and training?
That alone needs basic research in depth, theories and methods that we should have developed many centuries ago, if we could have focused on them properly.
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The boundless "exasperation" of a little baby's screaming
(perhaps starting with the initial "to breath or not to breath") that seems to prevail with life/death rage and ignored imploration...
Or something terrible may happen in the baby’s whole world trhat desperately
wants attention..., or it might die... too late...
Maybe many great possibilities to develop superior perception, comprehension, communication, superior emotional equilibrium and other capabilities are atrophied, or otherwise lost beyond remedy.
The case of the little boy who disappeared in a village in India and was found alive and healthy after living only with youngle animals. All his body functions were normal, including his voice, but his faculty of learning to speak had been irreversibly lost for not having been nurtured in time..
Is it possible that, like the monkeys who were unable to nurture the speech function, we are not nurturing faculties in our babies before the time of expiration of those faculties surrendered to atrophy?
Constrained in our inability to comprehend, all we are left with is a somehow guilty frustration that we learn to live with glibly and forget.
Imagine all the above happened, happens and will victimize hapless couples who seek help from divorce lawyers
(like chickens imploring foxes for help them against foxes...) with their primitive intellectual background with "irrelevant", "That is the way it is" and conclusions between $$$$ papers,$$$$ phone, $$$$ court sterile prattles, and even $33,000.00 for things I have neither ordered nor approved in my last court action. "But you signed a contract" that was only read to me with the usual rules read “after the game is over" and the judge will relevantly approve... because "that is the way it is".
Those who validate that kind of juridical "wisdom" are heir of a cultural tradition that stems from the Bible maniacs (fanatic misinterpreters) of our 17th century A. D., which cannot remotely compare with the over 30,00 volume Roman "
“Corpus Juris" and already developed for over 2,000 years when the Pilgrims started their one-dimensional Bible/ Common Law cocktail inspirations.
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At least, we should weigh the right of parents to have children and the right of children to be conceived and born in a responsible environment with tested educational systems to the very best of our seriously analyzed knowledge.
Lacking that, we are condemned to remain trapped in our present humanistic stagnation in millennia of inanity...
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When I first married in Germany, my wife and I were tested against syphilis (then a world wide concern),like everybody else.
Ideally, they should have tested us also against everything else possible,

Probably, my third wife would have continued her other-dimensional life and our handsome son would not have been born..
Give me freedom and a jack-in-the-box child and tell him/her we had the right to copulate without safe genetic precautions
Probably there was once a righteous and proud song: "God bless Sodom and Gomorrah.".
With legal choirs singing it angelically...
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Without competent rules, procreating children is too often kept on a bestial level.
As glibly as we approach marriage and family, we contrived divorce as a really frivolous (perhaps criminal) expedient instead of a solution.
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As it happens with many government agencies, divorce became a self perpetuating institution, with courts as its temples and greedy lawyers as its priests.
Are there any lawyers dedicated to restoring and/or improving family harmony and togetherness?
If they dare, they'll be persecuted by packs of divorce addicts.

What about psychologists?
The unnecessary defaming of Dr. Sigmund Freud's, Jung, Adler. Frankel and other psychoanalysis brought psychology to an unjustified disorientation.
Yet crisis in family therapy matters more now than ever before...
If family lawyers capture the psychology support, we are really facing the abyss...
And more divorces bring more money to divorce lawyers .... and more muzzles to the divorce victims...
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In our divorce settlement, we were supposed to split 50/50 our belongings, money and estate.
The judge did so on an estate and glib income basis. Suppose that my wife receives a, say, 100 $$$ salary for any length of tike, I am assigned the same.
The unmentioned fact is that I (the founder, sole owner and chemical and process formulator of a CHEMICAL manufacturing corporation for 49 years, (until I became blind......) was suddenly divorced by my wife, a luckless lawyer, whom I met 20 years after I started my successful business.
She could surprise me with divorce in virtue of the "NO-FAULT DIVORCE LAW" an incredible law that practically favors cheating, adultery, parasitism, sadism, cynicism, betrayal...etc..
I created and directed my business alone 20 years with great success before meeting her,
Was she scheming this diabolic divorce while I was training her to direct the company by the time I was going to retire?
I was even in a hurry with this project because also aging was complicating my health problems...
The lawyers took the whole thing over to extract as much as imaginable with unnecessary deplorable initiatives that flattered my wife to consequences that could cause insanity, suicide, or whatever desperation tricks us into... ("irrelevant", of course)...
Conclusion:
My wife, a reluctant lawyer, gets my business and salary amounting to 100$$$
I, a formulating chemist and entrepreneur who can make the money and let her manage it for us both, get a Mickey Mouse calculated building (about 80 miles away), with fixed rental income depending on 6 tenants whom I cannot control, so far away, blind, (therefore unable to drive there..). with a calculated fixed value equivalent to the same 100$$$.
My (ex) wife can increase her practical or real income far above any level with business trips, local or worldwide, and other countless expenses only imagination can limit...
Now I have undeservedly sunken from a 23 room house (hosting all kinds of activities I don’t even dare to mention here) to a 3-room condo I can hardly describe...
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My lawyer maneuvered the situation, causing reasons for a very juicy appeal, which she can not hesitate to lose to cause more financial obscenities (ALL LEGAL)
If that doesn't beat Sodom and Gomorrah, however, they were probably just slandered.
She has a company paid worldwide travel (easy: the corporation can go any part of the world tax free, and make money for all.
My ex-wife does not like export and import.
I do, for far more than the above reasons

It is about my turn to say: "that is the way it is" say treated in many ways by customers and/or suppliers tax free, and imagination can add virtually anything...
So: her 100 $$$ income can easily become even 300 $$$ or more, tax free...
I am stuck with a merciless fixed income. And I am the sole founder ex sole owner for 49 years, inventor and compounder of all my corporation chemical products, the one who trained her to inherit the whole corporation, and estate.
I made her rich and she made me poor...
Divorce is avoidable for those who believe in permanent marriage.

If the local customs accept divorce, a declared permanent marriage should still be protected from divorce.

My (ex)wife is a lawyer, thetefore she used legal "divorse law" ruses unknown to me, without waning me (coherently with our "adversary system" curse, for which Americans have to dig trenches against each other.
I was never told that my cotporation law had to yeld to it!).
Thus I ended up living with invisible swords dangling over me and commitments without knowing.
Some divorce trials seem to proceed as if only the "respondents" do not know anything in advance..
("tnat is the way it is") .
Of course, lawyers always find ways to rationalize everithig and to reveal the rules only after the game is over...
I also tried to have my objections published, but the newspaper is afraid to displease tne local lawyers...
That affects everything: even the Ten Commandments, by artiiculating a very professionally dignified
"..however...." after each
Commandment...
My wife's lawyer had me falsely arested for something I did not do, by having a court order (she herself wrote it, as if she had been the judge, instead of merely my opponent) served to me in weekend hours in which I could not hire a lawyer from my jail.
[the order was annulled and erased immediately thereafter, and the origin was permanently tainted]
Mind you: ours is the greatest DEMOCRACY in the world...
We can decide to overcome a
crisis, or start rationalizations that trap us into a divorce maze..
Marriage used to be a sacrament.
It still is, but it degenerated into a trap to squeeze money out of devastated families.

We cannot stop, lest the other party and lawyer plunge like vultures into our respite.
Ever hear a judge saying that the head of a family (man or womwn) must be honored and obeyed?
We are in a stage iwhere reasserting a truly patriarchal family with a father in charge (which has saved the Western Civilization for over 2,500 years).
Oopposed only by defeatist members of ciscredited groups..
Probably, only a catastrophic disaster could plunge us onto the proper mood to rediscover the patriarchal family.
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In a TV program "Touched by an Angel", I saw a portly heavenly messenger stating to worshiping believers that "family is a democracy"...
Millions of people can listen to that blatant nonsense and absorb family degenerating ideas.
How can the children choose (before they are born? ), elect, depose, reelect their parents or choose another natural(?) father or mother?
How can parents resign, or change (or obliterate) their genetic blood and guidance ties, or dishonor their duties to the children they brought to this world?
Family ties, reproduction and devotion are inextricably connected to each other.
Beside death and entropic developments on levels not handled here, the proven purposes of family are reproduction, nurturing and permanent devotion.

The father/mother -children devotion can only be permanent; far beyond courts, opinions or sex.
Family prospers in mutual devotion and duties not in "adversary system" rights.
The worst family disconnection is divorce.
Animal love that cannot mature into permanent devotion is a time bomb for the human family and a gold mine for divorce lawyers..
We spend the rest of our lives justifying our divorce decision with selective one-dimensional recollections that assure us our divorce was inevitable.

AND WE BELIEVE IT ...
Of course, by twisting reality, the other spouse was always considered wrong
All the victims of derailed reality and their children continue living the fraudulent reality, in a false belief that only (un)family lawyers can put together...
The moral A.I.D.S. spreads glorified.

SODOMAND/OR GOMORRAH?
Tthe "adversary system" reduces most differences into a one-dimensional WINNING against hostile LOSING. So, the better and smarter ones are to be eliminated by any means, ignored and forgotten....
In reality, what made it inevitable was our crossing the threshold between resolving the crisis and escalating it.

Help?
A shyster, the attorney or a psychologist can help the haplessly vulnerable client into or out of the divorce trap.
There are no public services to really help a family to avoid divorce and find a family-saving solution.
Just as revealing are the disguised efforts by the "family lawyers" on both petitioner and respondent sides to convince their clients how evil the other spouse is... so that the only solution is a ferocious and juicy divorce.
Unfortunately, vampires can thrive in many society.
Yet, once crossed over, the adopted proceedings and the lawyers set the course on an automatic non-stop.
The outrageously "practical" (really: arbitrary) pre-determination of what relevant subject must be made "irrelevant" for the trial...
The solution?
We must decide against divorce, at least in principle. Most people agree, but divorce exploiting lawyers are constantly working to perpetuate divorces...
Like firemen who would start fires to keep their jobs.
We are capable of bearing much more than we thought, no matter what attorneys and psychologists may assert.
Remember, BOTH SPOUSES are financially deprived if we use legal pro-divorce help...
Children are, mercilessly hurt for life by divorce.
Lawyers and many politicians conspire to hide the tragic truth.
Parents know it well, but expect judges and lawyers to use a magic wand that becomes a curse they refuse to recognize. Therefore divorce can brand the parents permanently.

To say that sometime divorce is best for the children requires sacrificing the children instead of straitening out the parents, lawyers and judges.
The latter often do what induces the lawyers to vote for them.
Nothing is unchangeable, including the apparently "hopeless" hostility of our opponents.

It is an old truism that there is no merit in being nice only to a nice person...
In most cases, the ultimate advantages of accepting the challenge of a "second rate" marriage are far greater than the irreversible ravages of divorce.
What would benefit the children and parents ?
Ask the children: usually they offer a sobering answer.
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The four most visible opponents of the family and Western Culture are:
[1] the Socialist “liberals”,
[2] the divorce lawyers”.|
[3] the anti-family economic structure
[4] lowering male majority age to 18, rather than raising it to 23 or 25 years.

=== [1] The Socialists consider the family as an impediment against their ideal society organized as a big worldwide anti-family community.
For them, the “nuclear” family (father/mother /hildren) model is "decadent", like everything not Socialistic. Such a goal can only be theoretically coherent with Lenin’s statement that the rest of mankind should be killed if that is the only way to save the remaining one word of one fourth or one third real Socialists.
=== [2] Divorce lawyers
are dedicated to dismembering the family, instead of protecting its original unity.
The remaining divorcees and their children are to be nurtured into producing more divorces and legal fees.

I know or heard of no divorced spouse or child whose life was or is really better a few years after the divorce.
Worse yet, “NO-FAULT DIVORCE”, coupled with “50/50 mandatory WEALTH PARTITION” amounts to a synergistic combination of evils that can become worse than a pestilence...

A creative and devoted spouse can become the victim fly in the spider web of a parasitic, adulterous, treacherous companion who ends up grabbing the better 50% of all that is left....regardless of who has what merit or guilt.
Assurances that the law has solutions are only barriers erected to protect the perpetrators of the unmentionable doom
Consider:
=== [3] anti-family economy
Our two millennia of humanistic cultural stagnation are due to our neglect of children education at home in favor of day-care centers or other non-parental nurturing.
I dare say that an unsuspected case of needed parental involvement atrophy is developing or has developed.
Whereas animal life purpose is survival, human life’s goal is a self defined meaning and meaningful success.
=== I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED 3 TIMES BECAUSE OF THE SYSTEM, not because of my wife and/or me:
=== [1] My first wife was probably the most victimized by her contaminating connections.
We married in (1951) Heidelberg, Germany. We moved to Italy, then to Venezuela, finally to U.S.A. (1955).
We had 7 beautiful children.
In 1959, I started a high-tech chemical manufacturing business. My wife joined me as office and laboratory assistant.
As she had great desire to return to Europe, I flew to Germany to start a manufacturing branch (near Duesseldorf) tnat she wanted and could manage there.
A “family lawyer” and my salesman would assist her in USA in my 3 to 5 week absence.
I connected with an old German friend who joined us eagerly.
Troubles started soon: my wife was not sending the funds allocated for the German enterprise, and the lawyer was never available... I ended up with no money and complete communication cut-off from my wife, the salesman and our lawyer...
As urgently needed, I plunged into buying and selling anything chemical and other I could between European countries in 5 languages, until I could fly back with 5 of my children who were spending some time with a German uncle .
Once back in America by surprise, I found my wife in a hospital with an incredible skin swelling all over her body... (later, a doctor told me it was from a "guilt complex body scratching"...(she was innocent and kept uninformed).
They even managed to sell some of my plant equipment without my knowledge...
I had no time for law's delays and bought, processed and sold in various locations owned by very kind American friends, until I could rent a whole plant...
All back together when also my last 2 children came back from their vacations with my mother and sister in Italy...
Meanwhile, my wife's conditions worsened to the point that she was admitted in a state hospital.
Only then I learned that she had been "practically brainwashed" by our lawyer and assistant into improvising a sudden separation and an aborted fraudulent transfer of my funds, equipment and estate, while I was in Germany...
I just acted too fast for them to bury me alive...
Without bureaucratic delays, I obtained restitution of funds evidenced from forged checks my salesman thought I would not detect in time..
Only later I learned that our lawyer was a "divorce lawyer" who could fool us because we grew up where inducements into divorce were (and are) a form of moral turpitude.
American legislators don’t dare to correct such infamy and tragedies for innocent adults and children alike...
All legal means are in place to keep the victims unheard and unseen..
(“Tower of London syndrome”?). My wife ran away from the hospital and disappeared.
Her lawyer said he had no idea where she was, no matter how I insisted to find it out.
Only a few years later, when she died in a car accident, I got more clues that our lawyer did not want us to come back together. I also found a letter from her lunatic brother claiming that I had signed a pact with Satan...
To split families and prevent their reconciliation has worse effects than murder.
In a pro-divorce environment, the desire of spouses to come back together is contaminated with lawyer's hostility and divorce pressures.
It was not easy for me, as father with 7 minor children, alone in a big house, while running a busy and successful chemical manufacturing business..
=== 1968: divorce became unavoidable for us all, plus estate and business, due to the local legal procedures.
1969: I married my second wife: beautiful, , with her 2 beautiful ittle daughters. They, plus my 4 sons and 3 daughters amounted to 9 children: the best group in town.
I designed and built my dream 16-room brick Tudor house on the very top of the most scenic hill in the area.
Then, we plunged all way into daily language activities that made them all (my new wife too) really fluent in correct Italian and German too.

Yet, divorcees who have broken the first marriage devotion, and the divorce-prone environment broke the spell and:
1979: THIRD MARRIAGE AND DIVORC E (2008
she was 33, (lawyer) and I (chemist and industrialist), 55. She was unable or unwilling to marry from a variety of men she dated briefly.

We were both undesirable prospects: she for "lonely search for answers" and I for living alone with 6 minor children (one daughter died in a car accident).
My 3rd wife was a lonely office lawyer employee in Chicago.
As we married, she moved from her 2-room apartment in Chicago to my 16-room brick Tudo(continuously alive with friends, parties and social events that were perhaps too much for my not gregarious wife).

She delivered our beautiful son 9 months later. My youngest daughter (from my rirrst mariage) took care of him while his mother worked.
About 4-5 yeas later, my wife gradually started to work in my plant to be trained to inherit it.
She had no knowledge of chemistry, business, inventory, purchasing, production, manufacturing, planning, accounting, sales, marketing, supervision of any kind, export, .import, planning, technical service. She learned with my cotinuous help...
I introduced her at least 30 ttmes to most of Europe by travel, vacation and business, as well my relatives there;busines occasions
n 1995, we moved to the present location in another state, she made me buy a 23-room mansion in the best neighborhood

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She never revealed that this state had "no-fault divorce" and enforced 50/50 estate partition (she contributed no wealth, knowledge or estate .
Had I known it, I would have chosen another state or made a proper marital agreement... and I would have avoided our nefarious divorce that transformed her into an ireiversible enemy.
I think, her father's (small farmer) sudden desertion from his wife and 3 little girls) was reportedly so shocking, that it crippled her emotional reactions toward men and fathers.
That made her the ideal victim of divorce lawyers, who had no trouble convincing her to... send me to jail with cynical fabricated legal tricks (later erased).
As per the ancient curse:
"I'll drag you all the way down, if it takes scrubbing floors on my knees for the rest of my life!"
(only an idiot would call it "irrelevant")
I ended up caught by surprise, when I was served the divorce petition.. while I was in the worst depression for losing my eyesight. and about to unfold what I had been developing for years to double the size of my corporation in USA and abroad...
I had not even been offered a corrective marital or business contract!
Meanwhile, since 2005, I developed the worst kind of "wet macular degeneration" blindness, just when I was about to complete my successful chemical formulations (adopted by the Government and Space Administration),_business plans to double the size of my corporation, while my wife was still in training.
That in spite of my worsening heart condition (sensitive to emotional stress, rather than to work or intellectual stress).
She suddenly filed for the accompanying 50/50 insane partition of everything, just when I needed her most and I was striving to prepare her administrative takeover by heritance...
As Satanic as being killed by the one whose life you have saved...
Both her lawyer and mine used transformed the divorce into an interminable series of innuendos and prevarications that cried for non existing mercy about permanently hurting our (our uninvolved sons included) reconciliation possibilities....
It was like being forced to look at ourselves being in Hell full of tortures neither of us wanted for the other...
Now, my lawyer has the unreal hope that I hire him for an appeal, when he could be disbarred.....
And what about the judge?
She accused me of speaking a "foreign language when I was asked by the court recorder to spell the names of research institutes in Germany where I had worked, and could not understand that my manufacturing corporation, its plant and my 16-room brick Tudor mansion were not a “marital property”, because they had been already established and prosperous for exactly 20 years (1959) ever before I met (1979) my present wife-to-be.
She even asked myy wife to confirm in open court that I was a clammed up recluse, while I am typically gregarious, having parties of even over 100 prominent people in my house and organizing of kinds of crowded events even from abroad in my party...
I always had more friends than she could ever believe ...
Someone must have lied to her beyond believe to cover up my wife's isolation troubles..
I believe judges should not be elected; especially not by lawyers to be pleased.
Any leader in any electoral system is seldom better than the electors.
In many countries, judges must pass a state and/or federal examination.

Misinformed courts handle many cases by decreeing argumentations, protests and requests as "irrelevant", as well as marginalizing the "respondent" personally exposed defense...:
The court acted
as it could not allow a respondent to reveal things the other lawyer disliked...
The judge has a big load of cases and must dispatch them to fit schedules....
My sight and hearing kept worsening... to a point that I ould not see nor hear what was going on in the court room (and tests court evidence declared mine to have a "superior intelligence"..)
I had to attribute it to... local legal folklore ...,
presumably perceived only when it was too late for me to explain... (No deadline warnings...) after the last court event, I found our that my lawyer was not allowed to act against my previous lawyer's deserting me (simply absent) in the first court appearance on June 27 2006 and allowing no witnesses (my production manager, m y office manager, my chief chemist, my shipping/receiving manager and the lab technician were about to come, when my unwanted (AGAINST MY WILL) substitute legal assistant rejected them.
My oppondnt's witnesses were only a receptionist and a newly rmployed office clerk.No one else wanted to testify for her.
Malpractice?
Lawyers told me I would need to pay a lawyer to claim malpratice. The lawyer is hostile if I don't pay $10,000 in advance before he only examines what it is all about...
They say the judge fears the shyster vendetta...
Well, the judge has to make a living too...
My witnnesses were scared away and resigned, exept the one who was then promoted as shipping manager (my undisputable 50-year jewel and unblemished pride is now beig temporarily overlooked but not ignored.
Since 1959, my corporation, its products and projects have been my exclusive creation. Transfering all to my heirs was mydesign anyhow.
also for tax easons...

The corporation is now sole property of a woman whom I was training to succeed me 100% as my heir. When the normal difficulties of implementaation induced us to call legal help for smooothening the asperities, the lawyers made such a mess of incOmpatiblities that we found ourselwesinvolved in contested divorce situation...
I fired my lawyer because he only wanted me to attack the woman I love... and I earned how preacarious a new lawyer search can be.
As the judge advised me to ask my wife's lawyer for a reputable attorney, he hurled at me aprroximately: " Anything I;d do for you would only be to damage you, for that is what I am being paid for!", and that was it..., back to the worst of the Stone Age... (if they really were so obtuse)...
The technical and corporate intricacies of a chemical industrial enterprise cannot be handled like a paint store and family law... Thus, both parties could only blame each other without end...
3 lawyers have created a fetid atmosphere for themselves alone...
My lawyer sends me copy of a letter of the opposing lawyer that I must quit the claim of owning my corporation that I founded and owned alone in itts unencubered and uninterrupted totality since 20 years before , to yield full ownership of my corporation to my ex-wife-to-be, as well as to money received by her for selling my belongings while I was incapacitated by a serious accident...
All that against the evidence that I committed neither crimes, not misdemeanors, nor demerits or anthing that the judge and the other lawyer or anyone could claim against me, directly or indirectly.... .
My lawyer adds his raccomendation that I will not surrender ...
Then, we go to court and I am commanded to sign what no one reads to me (blind) I am told to yield and sign complete surrender...
I object.
My objection is "irrelevant", JUST LIKE ME. What is the reason? "That is the way it is"...
So after being forced to give away a two- million dollar yearly sales growing company, I am left with an commercial fixed income commercial building (if the tenants stay and pay) 80 miles away, where I cannot drive because of my blindness, while the corporation has unlimited growth possibilities....
Is someone insane or ready to dish out the usual "relevant" lies?
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UN DER CONSTRUCTION & REVISION
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Think: we all agree, shake our head... and do nothing about it...
We can crucify the victims who dare to protest, without a procedure which obliterates what the victim had to say... Irrelevant?
And he must pay or else, after being abused, amd goes back into oblivion.
Death resolves everything...
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she harassed me for 28 years, but she falsely accused me of accusing and harassing her (that is; ASKING HER TO STOP HARASSiNG ME), then she had me falsely arrested, and even expelled from my 100% own plant without any evidence or explanation.
that is how i lost my 100% own( NON MARITAL) 50-year old corporation which I founded in 1959.
|=== My wife declares she has lost or is keeping and refusing to return all my records, confidential formulations, (my personal intellectual property) other personal belongings, documents, family records and memories...
and other possessions I entrusted her with while I was incapacitated from 4 broken ribs and severe head concussion.
The no-fault law sounds desirable especially for immoral and criminal people, but it can be ferociously destructive of family, society, morality and freedom (let alone the financial mess).
It protects and encourages irresponsibility, sadistic abuses, unlimited adultery, cruel immorality and unleashes nimaginable distortions in a childhood that neither social workers, laws, nor psychologists are prepared to face.
Can anyone dwell as long as needed on each of those mental and emotional cases as long and deeply as it deserves?
For instance, how can the true devotion of a loving spouse be cynically ignored by the law, if “no fault divorce” gives to one sadistic spouse the right to ignore the suffering the sudden desertion by one spouse can cause to the other and to the family?
And judges need to be re-elected by those lawyers.
It would be like authorizing torture and suicide with Satanic indifference..
“Oh well, we are too busy to focus on it...”
that is our infamy...
One lawyer told me: "You must play by the rules, which are only concerned with law, not with morality or justice".
Which god blessed America?
The same as in a card game in which the rules are revealed only after the game is over...
What is the use of suggesting what the spouse should have done?
Will anyone remember the poor victims?
Well... Life goes on...
Many marriages fail because of disastrous consequences, unknown to the victims.
We are not aware or knowledgeable enough.
Nor are the lawyers eager to let us know how to choose a solution that helps the client, if it means less profit for the lawyer

1972 A. D.
Our sanctioned TV plots and commercials show:
A spineless clumsy father, a wise and defensive mother ("role model" demanded by the feared ultra-feminists), and an unreachable, brittle child.

How to raise children: vitamins, nutrients, toys, and "Psychology Today" magazine placebos.
Conventionally "wise and refined", the woman is shown how to attract men with cosmetic strategy and how to be
irresistible with sterilized sex appeal.
Man is tough and fearless, enterprising too. But at home he is lost. He fears her (really: the show producers fear the feminists).
And she spurns him gracefully.
To the child, they never say: "Stop pouring hot soup on your sister's head!". Instead: "You see, when I was a child, once I touched my sister's hair...". ***/
Or, the closest ever: "Darling, you don't want Sissy's hair to become messy and soupy, do you?".
As a teenager, the child is a nuisance, because he wants the truth straight and pleasant. Mom and daddy are afraid of him.
So, the school must do the job. But the school is only geared to the minimum standards above uselessness and crime, in spite of emphatic claims to virtue and patriotism.
What is the situation?
Our highest divorce rate in the world apparently condemns an "Establishment" that (de)forms the family into media-friendly patterns.
Yet, the highest incidence of divorces is among the "enlightened" youth, who try to fit family into their own fads, which supplant the traditional "antiquated views".
The family fits the reality of human nature, not our opinions and theories about it.
It cannot be forced into a pattern that mirrors only what we hardly understand.
The present conventional values are anti family, although our "leaders" claim the opposite.
If the traditional family ideals of loving care, mutual support, enduring cohesion were expanded to society, they would replace some insurance and banking empires, our welfare cancer, one-dimensional bureaucracy and most present political postures.
The Human Family, feared by those who feel united in shared hatred, would supersede ideologies, parties, and politics.
The independent and bellicose ("rugged") individualism has been installed on altars, and the family itself is being sacrificed to an insatiable individualism god.
Like society, family is a natural form of cooperation and interdependence through love, concern, active care, mutual help, intent on developing human beings, not consumer/ producers, worker/citizens, or unconcerned do your-own-thingers.
Insects are probably the best examples of independence, from the moment they hatch.
The best workers, citizens, consumer-producers and do my own thingers (as impersonally ordained) are like ants.
Human independence is only possible as developed with caring awareness, just as the child's ego develops from awareness of the surrounding world.
Of course, both the "Establishment" and the "progressives" claim they want the caring, loving family and society. But they fail because they mistakenly think they know what caring, love, harmony and truth are.
No matter how damaged by transient fads, family still exists, like human nature.
It starts "nuclear" (father/mother/children) and becomes "extended", societal, as human nature evolves, without regard to the faddish meanings we give to those concepts.
Attempts to make the family fit any image are like attempts to make our bodies digest cellulose because it would be so convenient.
Goats and termites can do it, not we.
Of course, family undergoes evolution: but human evolution.
A new theory or faith is not evolutionary as such, even if it is gift wrapped with words like "rational", "Christian", "modern".
Family needs imperatives demanding togetherness and devotion.

We should not trust absolutes, but ordained relativism is also an absolute.
We accept many absolutes, from "Thou shalt not kill" to "No smoking".
Family has long accepted its own, such as loyalty, devotion, cooperation, fidelity, protection, regardless of law, age, gender.
Love, fervently hoped for, is a selfless duty in a family.
Refusing or omitting help, in any needed form, just because a family member is of "major age', mature adult or whatever is appropriate to an insect family (where children are independent from the moment they hatch), but truly degenerate in a human family, where love is nurtured from childhood.
The Greek culture was destroyed by the social suffocation of the family with customs and laws that nullified the paternal authority. The Romans restored the "patria potestas" (paternal authority) and with it the resulting patriotism and "patria" (from "pater"- father).
We observe cynicism add hatred in families without father or paternal authority.
The more sophisticated or evolved any family is, the higher are its standards, but the previous standards are improved in converging love, rather than replaced with diverging individual hostility.
If family is permanent because human child-hood is the longest, and because woman is fertile only a limited time, and man virtually until death, then the present social complexity demands family's permanence.
After all, the learning period, or childhood, is longer now than ever before.
Already before puberty, the child learns to internalize concern, care, enlightened self-aware-ness, with pleasure in satisfying the need to useful knowledge.
If this need is frustrated, it may degrade in revengeful egotism.
That has become the unintended cause of two disastrous social changes:
(1) lowering the majority age from 21 to 18;
(2) Lowering the expected retirement age.
The opposite should have happened in both cases.
=== First, the stunning worldwide culture developments in the 20th century have raised the minimum educational level of survival and maturity from 21 to 25 years. Instead, lowering it to 18 has been utterly counter-producing. Consequently, statistics comparing those who were legally adult at 18 and those who did it at 21 must show the shocking truthThe divorce percentages alone of the 18-2o-year-old married, employed, etc. aren't even worth checking
Nowadays, a high school diploma is almost no long a survival tool, unless it is raised to at least B. A. or B. S. level Retirement age should have rised, due to medical progress, longevity, necessity of more experienced workers, teachers, scientists, leaders, minimized need for muscular strength
The blunder of lowering majority age to 18 was a political move by those who would gain votes from: soldiers, ambitious or rebelling students, parents unwilling to support growing children, parents who cannot inspire defiant teenagers with higher goals than "the value of money", "education to get a good job", "stay out of trouble", "do your own thing", no matter how well intentioned, cause serious damage.
Thus we have spoiled brats, cynical individuals, ruthless hedonists who contaminate society.
Without disciplining parents who materially or figuratively spank them, and can use other means made for recalcitrant minors, we
are doomed to fall into the claws of pretentious mediocrity
They are among the teenagers who drop out from family, school and society.
Some claim and sincerely believe they can start new societies. They cut their childhood too short and become too soon "adults" of a special kind: as they cannot continue to develop their sensitivity and caring awareness, they develop a thick skin; they become "cool".
Ideally, the teenager never leaves the family when he "leaves" it: he only expands his developing need and ability to contribute to society, after starting them within the family.
With this, it is purely academic to distinguish between "nuclear" and "extended" family.
The human family doesn't care to conform to any definition popping out of 4-6 years long psychology courses.
It just exists as such and as the nucleus of society
And society may be shaped accordingly, not as wished in songs or political speeches.
We should learn from it, not adapt it to our improvised knowledge. Finally, to single out the teenager or 30 , 50 , 80 ager as if he (or she, of course) had separately defined existence, instead of being integral part of the continuum between birth and death, condemns him to the same inhuman indignity as that of the arbitrarily segregated "senior citizen".
Our society has accepted the barbaric custom of a separate old age in "dignified" death row warehouses.
We are developing the same indignity for the embarrassing nuisance of the teenagers who need to fit and evolve in spite of our shallow values, inhuman conditions, incompetent educational system and technocratic Moloch.
The "gap"?
The old blame the young and vice versa.
(The "adversary system" fetishism takes over).
Instead of blame, both need help: from each other. Sincere reaching out would suffice as a beginning.
Hardly anything is more insidiously ridiculous than a young "expert" teaching an octogenarian how to live.
Only the deserter is beyond help, since he puts himself beyond reach.
The task is difficult. But so is a good life.

WHO IS THE BOSS

Man is, of course.
No, it is not a facetious statement.
Nor is it unjust or bad or good, repulsive or attractive.

We don't even know to what extent it is true or false.
Nor do we know what "boss" means in this context.
Yet, we keep debating and digging trenches on the justice of our patriarchal (or what is left of it) patterns.
First, it is remarkable how we avoid discussing the "justice" of things that cannot be changed.
For instance, what justice is in the fact that man is physically stronger than woman?
How just is it that woman lives longer, or that only woman bears children?
The most we can do is to be "scientific" (which is less than we think, really) instead of righteous (which is even worse) about them.
We plunge like vultures on subjects we are unable to agree upon: justice, equality, virtue, etc.
The most we can do is philosophize about them.
Someone said that science is what we know (sort of) and philosophy is about what we don't know and still argue about.
We say that we don't clearly know why or how man has always been in charge.
We know that woman supported it from time immemorial. Listen what women have been telling their sons from biblical beginnings.
A philosophical consideration, not a fact, is that it may have been right or wrong.
Let alone the unresolved puzzles of the many meanings of right and wrong.
It is remarkable how indifferently the female of countless species waits for the end of the mating fight between males. Then, she mates and remains submissively (more or less) with the winner.
What would the female goat say if a civilrightnik tried to inform her of her right to choice, independence and freedom?
The immediate choice between the ram's and her "rights" would only be the first of her many dilemmas.
It is a fact that, as long as man was firmly in charge of the family and society, marriages lasted healthily. ("because they were forced" is a sophomoric answer).
At least, they could not have been broken by today's frivolous reasons that lawyers of each spouse transform into hopeless obstacles that can only handled with divorce. And more money for the lawyer...

As to divorce lawyers, the undeniable indignity is that they lose money if the the spouses choose reconciliation... What could be worse for the family?
Add then the notion that U.S.A. has 80% of all world's lawyers, and that U.S.A. has the moral and social abomination called "default divorce" (divorce for no reason whatsoever, just for the asking, even by the most irresponsible, sadistic, adulterous, violent, profligate, in all ways contemptible spouse. To make it still worse, in many states marriage automatically gives each spouse half of the family real estate, even if a worthless spouse marries a rich one and contributes nothing even after marrying. Thus, upon divorce, the worthless one gets the half of everything, no matter what...), and we might as well dig a grave to bury the American family institution.
And we watch this degeneration progressing beyond control, AND WE DO NOTHING ABOUT IT...
And I used to think that Sodom and Gomorrah were no more than biblical figments of a sick imagination!..

Previously, the man was fully responsible for the family and had little chance to run away. Now family laws discourage marriage and promote fatherless families...
Feminists surmise that better stability would have derived from a matriarchal approach, even if every attempt at matriarchy ended in patriarchy. And it was tried almost everywhere.
Home-made example: the "African American" family is virtually matriarchal and has the worst family statistics, from single mothers and fatherless children, from poverty to crime rate...
It is quite telling that there is no historical evidence of any matriarchy having ever succeeded for any significant period anywhere in the world.
There is overabundant evidence (suppressed in official history) that wherever and wheever matriarchy was tried and supported in any time and placemin the world, it just failed, whether supported or not.
One relevant fact is that one be in charge, at least to break any eventual impasse.
Sacrificing patriarchy or matriarchy to our pompous "result--equality" and phony "liberty" fetishism is asinine idolatry.
The notion that we are entitled to "equality" and "liberty", without first learning what they are exactly, and how to use them, could be compared to that of undertaking appendectomy without knowing exactly what and where the appendix is.
And the notion that appendectomy is more complicated to understand than liberty and equality is lethal nonsense.
The pattern of orderly and productive hierarchy reigns in businesses, schools, government bodies, military and all organizations in which results are, as in the family, more important than debates.
In the case of the family, submission to paternal (or maternal) authority has always been preferred to the alternatives of marriage dissolution or unmarried life.
The bleak picture of many singles organizations, singles bars, discos and dating services show the heavy sacrifices paid on the altars of equality and independence dogmatism.
The new unmarried couples cult is one of the prices especially women and children have to pay for the emasculation of the family.
That is preciseoy what destroyed the Greek culture about 23 centuries ago.
In our case, the unmarried living together protects man, more than woman, against the trap of modern American marriage.
The ultra-feminists favor the new cult because they don't understand how it hurts woman. But the "feminazis" know, even if they don't comprehend.
They may like it that way, so that they can exploit the "victimization" of the woman by blaming it on the man. That gets them preposterous compensatory favors, until society wakes up again (in 50, 80, or 200years?).
In today's laws, the ones who are ostentatiously favored in marriage are the woman and children; but at their disastrous expense.
We have reached the point that a wife can bring her husband to court for having raped her.
Whether the court convicts the man in this case is immaterial. The absurdity is that our present laws allow a court to prosecute such a case (ever heard of "violence" or "physical cruelty"?).
We hear horror stories about man deserting the family, man beating the wife, man being irresponsible, cruel, callous...
Anti-man havens for battered women (often disguised as "family WoMan and child protection" or the like) are metastasizing like a social carcinoma, in collaboration with embarrassed police.
The same man that was presumed to be a hero of all virtues, including responsibility, integrity, unselfish love, in all remaining fields of human endeavor...
In this context, it may be immaterial to mention him as an inventor, soldier, builder..., but let it be to complete the picture.
The point is that there must be a reason why the American man is such a failure in marriage and yet so great elsewhere until about 1970, and then a no good *#&*!! Afterwards, especially if white and gainfully employed.
Somewhere, in the background, one may hear a muffled, outlawed, voice that insinuates that, perhaps, the failure is in the American ultra-feminist syndrome.
But we won't pay any attention to that.
Or that same American "feminazi" (not the traditional feminist, which -by the way- I have often supported) is not going to read beyond this point.
And she won't vote for us.
It is a fact, however, that our "liberty" does not allow us to do without the vote of any category of people possessing political clout.
The fear of reprisal or other doom creeps on anyone who dares to say something that displeases militant extremists; who, therefore, are miscalled "feminazis".
Negative or accusatory statements against man have been an American ritual for generations.
Just like those, more recently, against the white man.
Another clue: the resentment children flaunt against famous or successful parents.
Prominent parents used to be a source of pride and inspiration.
If anything, their children used to show off their advantage of coming from such parents. Which it was, if properly understood.
It was also thought that some people are so deserving that they have the right to bestow like any other inheritance-some of their rewards to their children.
It was a pleasure and a duty for the children to inherit and deserve their parents' merits. It was also a duty to use them, or else the parents would not have achieved their goals for their progeny.
Then, the tables were turned around.
The successful parents became a source of resentment for the children who could not "compete" with them.
Inheriting money was ok, after the government Revenue Mafia took its own cut.
Inheriting achievements, status and an honored name became a hindrance...
The child of prominent parents is expected to repudiate them and is offered none of the facilitations bestowed on children of obscure or otherwise disadvantaged parents.
One could remark that some men and successful parents have abused their advantages.
But that is a reason to improve education and society, not to depose a man and parent.
We can only cause worse problems if we depose the ship's captain and expect the crew to take his place merely in the name of rights, .
We have deposed man and his authority, to do away with his abuses: decapitation as a cure for headache.
The man who gets stoned at the tavern and cries in his stupor: "Listen to me, kid, don't ever marry..." is no joke at all. He is sincere, he feels victimized. Even if he has caused suffering to his wife and children...
It could be that, for generations, man has heaped pretentious assumptions on himself alone not on the woman with exhilarating bravado.
In the tradition of blaming male responsibility, woman has gladly adopted the superman concept.
The consequent expectations have become woman's rights and man's duties...
Then, we are bound to discover that superman cannot fly.
And one wonders why one man after another gives up and has no alternative but to run away.
No problem for the lawyers: "that is the way it is" and they make more and more money by legislating against the status quo...
It is known that this kind of frustration cripples man also in routine duties.
That, of course, crushes the wife and mother.
The social structure created by the high expectations leaves her powerless...
She is a victim, and she enjoys it subconsciously.
So, more reasons to pursue man.
It is a Catch 22 situation that is hidden.. but very visible for those who want to look.
In the process, as shown in divorce settlements, the children are handled as mother's belongings.
So the house.
The best the father can obtain is visitation rights. After all, he must pay alimony and child support.
In other words, he loses virtually all the rights he thought he had as a father and husband, and is burdened with virtually all the duties.
Under these conditions, all a man can hope from a woman is sex gratification.
For that purpose, marriage is like building a castle for a chicken.
It won't take long, for modern woman, to realize that she is the real loser in today's unmarried arrangements.
The most elemental evidence is clear enough when she fulfills her motherhood and the man is no longer there.
Some have proposed to try a matriarchal style.
We don't have to go far to find manifestations of its elements:
most American black families are matriarchal.
In those cases, the man has no incentive to marry.
Like any other man of any culture in the same conditions, he has even lost interest in the children. They practically belong to her, not to him.
The progeny continuity takes more than just a copulation, especially if the copulation is spent with a simple act: Non sequitur.
Whether it is man's or woman's fault, why should any sensible man accept responsibilities that leave him with duties without rights or rewards?
The law is progressively eroding man's (white and black) incentive to get involved with marriage and children. He may delude himself that he counts something, as father and husband, until a divorce or law packing "gender feminism" gives him the rudest awakening.
Those who legislate patriarchy away from the present family will have to create an unbearably complicated mountain of rules, laws and controls to "protect" the family
into extinction.
No wonder matriarchy has always failed in all cultures.
What can be done, then, to restore the family?
Let's restore the traditional man incentive roles of leadership and authority which, by the way, are desired by the normal woman.
What if the man doesn't deserve them?
The law, ultra-feminism and the anti-man/anti-patriarchy environment have deprived him of any incentive. All a woman offers him is the self-extinguishing sex gratification.

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DODO PSYCHO

Life may be 3.5 billion years old. Perhaps a little less or more.
Without asking for our seal of approval, it has established and developed myriads of things we do not even perceive.
That's good, since ou r choice could have delayed and spoiled everything.
Life also develop ed myriads of things inside, around and variously connected with what we think we know.
Take a mother and her young.
Wherever the young need parent's guidance, a stroke of the paw, a push or any indisputable command is definitely effective.
It is the result of 3.5 billion years of trial, error, establishment and endless improvements.
Suppose, now, that psychologists, biologists, zoologists and other specialists determine to analyze that behavior and decide that, say, a pussycat is no longer to use her paw or other unreasoned methods to teach her kittens.
Instead, she must use a system that allows the kittens to use their own evaluation or other free reaction to voluntarily adopt the mother's teaching.
Nonsense, we would say.
Well, read about fashionable 20th century child psychologists, e.g. John Dewey...
But they do it with themother and children of the human species, in America.
They come up with the apparently obvious theory (psychologists have to come up with something "better than nature", or who needs them?) that a child should never be forced but convinced by an adult who deserves their respect.
To state that a parent must deserve the respect of his/her children seems so logical and obvious, that it would be difficult to disagree with it.
A divorced friend of mine let's call him Fred was dating a girl who gave the best argument against it.
She had three children that showed an unbearable behavioral pattern.
The oldest was a 12 year old girl with an uncanny talent to break plates, glasses, bottles, and hide the broken pieces under the carpet, or leave them on the floor.
She also burst into loud crying every time anyone said something she didn't like. She ran to mommy and mommy asked Fred to be more understanding.
Her younger brother, 11, was a misfit brat.
The first time he came to Fred's home, Fred's sons were playing pool. He entered the room, grabbed the "8 ball" and said he was going to play too...
When Fred tried to explain that the others wanted to finish their game first, he became despondent and said Fred was a lousy host.
Their little sister, 10, ran all over opening drawers, the refrigerator, file cabinets etc., and took whatever she liked.
That kind of behavior manifested itself constantly in mumerous forms.
Their mother never tried to correct them. When Fred tried, just to protect other people involved, the children invariably ran to mommy to complain about him.
Mommy told him, in their prese nce, that her children didn't listen to him because he didn't do anything to deserve their respect.kk
Now, what is the meaning of deserving the respect of misbehaving children who can appreciate (or respect) only someone who bows to their whims?
The respect due to a parent or an adult in authority depends on his position and function, not on a frivolous requirement that makes inexperienced or incompetent spoiled children the judges.
We must assume that the person in authority deserves that authority until somebody can prove the opposite, the same as a free man is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty.
As psychologists have developed full libraries of abundantly documented researches, data, results, theories, refinements of the same in any conceivable direction, their scientific fortress surely looks impregnable.
With all probability, it is.
A fortress can be built with the best materials and the most advanced architecture. It may be designed to be the strongest fortress on earth.
But, leaving all those attributes intact, that very fortress that resists any attack by anyone can crumble because of wrong foundations.
Now, accepted rules would require me to document my statement that families of psychologists may have more divorces, problem children, emotional problems, alcoholism or other addictions or what-have-you.
Imagine now, I stop for months or years of research to accumulate data for a statement that should not need it because many researchers have already proven it many times.
What if families of psychologists have fewer of those problems, but not few enough to justify the advantages of psychological savvy...
As a matter of fact, psychologists seem to have, statistically, even worse psychological problems than non-psychologists.
Certainly, not less divorces or happier children.
I suspect we could say the same of lawyers.
Well, both lawyers and psychologists may develop superb competence of procedures and patterns developed on wrong premises.
Moreover, they are not alone: educators, coaches, therapists..., as well as politicians, legislators (this is only a partial list...) and post-modern parents are exposed and extremely vulnerable to the same contaminations...

Well, let me just relate that the nonsense I have heard from pseudo psychologists is far too much more than one would expect as a result of years of college education and professional practice (which sees in most cases only what confirms their prejudices and ignores what invalidates them).
I admit that they learn a lot. But a lot of wrong theories it is little more than science coated trivia.
Today's theory ridicules yesterday's.
Tomorrow/s theory proves today's theory wrong or even dangerous...
Haven't we learned it yet?
That is another reason why the solid and permanent family is a safe haven. We have heard for millennia that love is miraculous...
Everything else is undependable by comparison.
Take for instance educational theories.
Montessori, Freud, Jung, Adler, Gestalt, Transactional, Logotherapy..., the list is endless and futile.
Suppose a little 3 4 year old child was violently dragged from the bed to practice piano, night after night, by a father who was a failed musician, a drunkard and worse things I don't need to remember in detail.
This little boy, who was violently forced into piano playing to compensate for his father's failures, is the perfect example today's psychologists would describe of how to render a child allergic to piano and music.
That child was Ludwig van Beethoven (1770-1827). Or so they say.
Oh, I forgot, all you have to do, now, is to use the hindsight: dig a few details in Beethoven's biography, and take a few more here and there to justify, rationalize and come up with a brilliant theory that you can forget.
There was a time in which children were raised with obedience.
Instead of psychology, they used the Ten Commandments.
I am not a Bible scholar, nor a believer in the perfection of the Ten Commandments, but they surely work better than any psychological theory, diagnosis, prognosis, methodology, transactional analysis, pedagogy and more...
Now, what would a psychologist say in favor of obedience?
It wouldn't sound as scientific as an intricate explanation of how to generate better response with a sophisticated and reasoned free adoption of the loving parent's suggestion...
Then, of course, don't forget that we must consider the origin of consciousness in the breakdown of the bicameral mind, and fit it with picking a cherry with a variable speed drill (120 or 220 volts? Monophase, 3 phase?) held by a lesbian albino lady in a red dress with yellow polka dots.
Nonsense? Sure: fitting together family with divorce, "liberty", "independence", "equal rights", "democracy" is no smarter than fitting and understanding the psychological meanderings with a cherry and an electric drill held however by whomever...
America has more psychologists than any other country.
America also has the most spoiled brats.
The most divorces.
The worst anti male hostility.
The worst dope problems.
The worst racial conflicts (untrue, but it is politically correct. to say it).
When do we wake up and put our psycho socio pedagog orthopolitical package next to the dodo bird is?
The Ten Commandments are decidedly better, even if they are claimed to be only a supposedly primitive beginning...

COPULATION CONSULTANTS

"Copulation consultant", or "erotic gratifier", as a professional designation, is probably the last step a prostitute needs to become socially acceptable.
In many ways, the prostitute can be mentioned to exemplify a noticeable portion of the status problem women are facing today.
Some say a prostitute differs from a wife in the fact that she is not married and gets paid for her services.
Her morality and promiscuity are proportional and inversely proportional to her security and financial needs.
Well, I tried to explain it.
Things are happening today that promise or menace professional honorability to the prostitute, as well as industrialization of the house/maker/wife/mother functions.
First, unionism, feminism and civil rights postures are doing away with the dignity or even right to existence of all activities that are not salaried and regulated.
It did not occur to them that destroying the dignity of whatever is not paid is the classical "throwing away the baby with the bathwater".
The most important casualty is woman as the mother, wife and housewife.
Today's woman is induced to feel degraded or at least disparaged if she is not paid for what she does in marriage.
This fate is befalling the concepts of wife, mother and housekeeper.
They are told by the civilrightniks, unionists and ultra-feminists that they are being exploited in non remunerated functions arbitrarily defined by (white) men..
Soon, even love must have a job description and a salary...
Preferably on a union scale and collective bargaining.

Union rules in a bordello may even force men to choose the bimbos with the most seniority first (with Viagra free).
Which screws up the oldest profession.
We will have to sober up and start with copulation consulting and the salary set by supply and demand.
After all, the oldest profession claims its due.
If the wife is still not paid and unionized, then, the modern ethics may place her below the level of a "copulation engineer".
Marriage, by the way, is no longer necessary, for a man and a woman can live together with their civil rights, job descriptions and remunerations defined by collective contracts and safeguarded by job secured bureaucrats.
If the above scenario sounds nightmarish, I agree...
Justice is guaranteed by the fact that the bureaucrats were hired on the basis of racial disadvantages instead of competence.
One could not be in better hands...
An unmarried couple could fit in job descriptions like "Household". Engineer, Breeding Executive, Copulation Broker, Crotch Curator, Perineum Analyst, Certified Oralist, Education Assistant, Food Manager, Maintenance Supervisor, Societal Agent, Financial Provider,
Of course, the list is only limited by the imagination of the bureaucrats, whose power grows with the size of the list and the troubles it can make.

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THE EGG-CHICK-EGG

The socialist liberals claim that poverty and capitalist exploitation have destroyed the family by forcing the woman to work instead of caring for the family.
Just a minute: weren't the socialist the cause, or at least the irresponsible causation?
The ultra-feminists claim that the family has no right to exist if it interferes with woman's liberty and equality with man.
The conservatives claim that displacing the traditional family values with the unproven dogmas of liberty, equality, "civil liberties", enforced gender and racial equality, unsupervised sexual freedom has deprived the family of its unity, solidity, authority and even its raison d'tre.
The socialist claim is the same that asserts that poverty creates crime.
History has abundantly proven otherwise.
Poverty has created work rather than crime. The rich have less incentive to work than the poor.

The family is stronger and more prolific in civilized "third world" societies than in the prosperous and industrialized societies.
The countries where the family values are decayed are (or will be) barbaric, or at least uncultivated.
Virtually every century, all over the world, has produced devoted people, from common peasants to knights, monks, philanthropists, hermits, idealists, saints, prophets, all kinds of leaders completely dedicated to poverty and selfless help to fellow men.
Many of them became famous because of their great deeds, inventions, conquests, discoveries, immortal masterpieces in every field of endeavor.
A surprisingly large percentage of the greatest men (and women, of course) were helplessly dependent on other men; many were even slaves or hardly better than slaves.
Many of those great men would have achieved nothing, had they been spoiled by wealth.
The cases of insignificant or downright rotten children of wealthy and famous people are too well known and embarrassing.
A convincing example is certainly the Great Depression of the 1930's in USA.
Poverty was then at such a miserable level, and for so long, that today's (1994) poor would be very wealthy by comparison. Yet, the number of murders, robberies, violent felonies, rapes and other crimes, fatherless children, divorces, family problems and other social disorders are much more numerous and worse today than during the Great Depression.
The hyper-feminist ("feminazi" or ultra-feminist) anti family and anti-man posture is so extreme and repeatedly declared, that it is unnecessary to repeat it here.
It is the attack on the traditional family values that deserves at least a mention.
However, a list of what was mentioned elsewhere in this book would be sufficient.
Patriarchy must be restored without the least apology.
First, because it has withstood the test of millennia, cultures and wars against any other approach.
Second, patriarchy is not at all anti woman; most likely anti feminazi in the same sense as it is against abusive males and machismo.
It includes protection of man, woman and child, without being in the least anti any of them, as today's feminazism is viciously anti male.
Then, patriarchy is desired in its essence (but today without the "patriarchy" designation) by the traditional feminist women, because it increases man's responsibilities, not his guilt (has anyone ever thought that every man has a mother,wife, daughter, sister he mostly loves and is loved by?...)

Parental authority must recover all functions and rights that it lost to the courts, bureaucrats, teachers, social workers and other meddling do-gooders.
Legal majority should be raised from 18 to the 24, or even more, years of age.
The crimes, irresponsible marriages, immature parenthoods, incompetent enterprises, mindless promiscuity, venereal diseases, illiteracy, foolish choices and contracts, gang activities, teen age prostitution, dope addiction and many other problems it would minimize, if not eliminate, would be mind boggling.
This alone would save so many billions from wasted welfare, law enforcement, educational and child care budgets and countless other expenses, that it would become a major solution to our social and financial woes.
Divorce should be made as difficult as possible, to save the family and children.
Taxation should favor married couples and penalize marriage dissolutions and unwed couples.
Unfortunately, most politicians are lawyers, and lawyers would lose enormous incomes if divorce problems were eliminated or minimized.
The final consequences of whatever is done to restore the traditional family (in whatever new form may be necessary) cannot fail to be a godsend for our entire nation.

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LOVE COMES NEXT

Several years ago, one of my chemists was a handsome and very pleasant young man from India, beside being a brilliant scientist.
His personal magnetism was obvious in any social environment. He could have dated or married almost any girl in America.

One day he told me that he had to return to India to meet and marry a young lady his parents had chosen for him.
To my standard Western questioning about arranged marriage without the primary love motivation, he came up with examples we both knew of countless love marriages that ended disastrously, or at any rate not as successfully as competently arranged marriages.

His reasoning was so disarming that I had to surrender to his posture, which became easier to understand the more I thought about it.
Among other things, one fact became more and more evident: being focused on each other, husband and wife have many temptations toward mutual hostile criticism and its consequences.
Even if that mutual focusing is initially motivated by love, which, by itself alone, is just an emotion, no matter how poetic or sacred.
Hollywood couples, the epitome of famous love unions, have an astounding frequency of failures and divorces.

When husband and wife both focus on a common interest (children, business, any activity or goal) instead of on each other, something is created like two parallel lines in the same direction that don't cross each other.
I would venture to say that more durable affection and togetherness can be more likely derived from common (obviously compatible too) goals than from love and sex alone.
Sounds unholy?
It is hard to deny that the observation, between love-bird lovers, "I don't love you any more like before" is disastrous, whereas the same observation by a simply affectionate spouse, or one like "I don't like to have one more child", is manageable.
I could have mentioned better examples, but that should suffice for now.

Family goes far beyond sexual gratification, for which dates and simple copulation would suffice, but the nucleus of life reproduction and nurture first, both sublimed in love.
Yet, family is now under attack by the government, lawyers, militant homosexuals, ultra-feminists, deconstructionists and leftist liberals.

Government delivered the first crippling blow by lowering the majority age from 21 to 18.

Removing parental control and protection from irresponsibility among the very young has beeb and is the closest to national cultural suicide. Besides, even among mature adults, the mere sex/love motivation can be just as irresponsible.
The devastating consequences show most obviously in our spectacularly high divorce rate.

As previously mentioned, our increased longevity and educational requirements alone should have raised majority age to at least 23 or 25.
Intrusive legislation added insult by giving bureaucrats arrogant power over the family.
"Aid To Dependent Children" and welfare penalized marriage and made father's involvement remarkably inconvenient.
Lawyers nailed the family's coffin with "No Fault Divorce", which injected malignancy in every marital difficulty.
Politicized psychologists defined homosexuality with a "normality" label that branded normal people as "heterosexuals".
This denied -or at least contaminated- the normality of male/female interaction in the reproductive familial reality.
Recognizing a claim-jumping homosexual marriage versus normal marriage puts homosexuals on an unnecessary collision course with the heterosexuals, and desecrates what should be sacred (at least as a concept) in conjunction with reproduction.

Marriage is upgraded by the family, not by a meddlesome government.
Considering marriage an unconditional right for the homosexuals facilitates a devious substitution of reproductive union with typically sterile fornication, ruthless toward the children (which makes partial-birth abortion easier than abstinence) and a pandering for votes by irresponsible voters, whose number increases as bellicose "entitlements" are dispensed like "wheat and games to the populace" (which inadvertently reveals politician's contempt for the general public. "Reelect me and the hell with you", or "Aprs moil le deluge").
Ultra-feminists, dictatorially man-hating persons (and ignorant of history), see family as woman enslavement and patriarchal oppression.

Deconstructionists, the enemies of our culture, are dedicated to the deactivation of the family and Western culture, which they aim to fragment with a malignant "multiculturalism".
They fear family as the nemesis of big government and leftist multiculturalism.
Nuclear and extended families harmonize in commonly agreed values and form the basis of democratic societies from the roots.
Big government is imposed from above through proliferating regulations to support bureaucracies and politicized organizations.

They contaminate America with victimization of workers, women, children, minorities and races, to fabricate a lynching mood against family, individual initiative, competition, un-politicized education, values and secularized religion.
Does anyone care?

SALVATION IN MULTIPLICATION

No one seems to dispute that members of the modern and prosperous nations deliberately limit the number of their children to a very minimum, while members of the poor "third world" nations tend to generate as many children as possible.
The reasons given are that more than one or two children are considered an unnecessary burden for sophisticated people who don't have the need of poor people to be supported in their old age by their children.

This situation, however, has produced the inescapable consequence that the population of the richest and most sophisticated nations is decreasing at an alarming rate, while the poorest nations are growing in a similarly alarming rate.
Furthermore, an unintended consequence is that the thus increasing number of older people percentage in low-reproducing rate nations causes the older people to become and unbearable burden for the younger ones.
Conclusion: reality proves that prosperous people have very similar reasons as the poor for producing as many children as possible...
(to be continued)

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The above contains enough argumentation in favor of the inviolability or sacredness of the family, even if we ignore the religious background.
The strongest reason to protect, promote, defend the supremacy and indissolubility of the family is the father/mother/child inviolable trinity.
The question of guaranteed paternity demands the absolute certainty that the father of the child be guaranteed not simply by the mother's assurance
that she copulated with no other man but the father of the child in question.

conventionally required for marriage is too ephemeral. It is for lovers and lasts only until the two lovers start being serious about the real business of life.
The difference between marriage and a partnership is that, in marriage, each spouse is responsible for 100% of the shares.
Marriages that ignore it ends in failure, even if they don't notice it..
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Psychologists themselves don't know.
I am sure I lost my business because my lawyer refused to reveal his disastrous conflicts of interest that distorted his "ethics" against me!
About 2 millions of damages to me for the few thousands he would gain by betrayin me?
Often, the fulfillment of a particular pleasure, virtue or advantage forces us to pay an unsuspected cruel price.

We require a license for driving, after a serious training and rigid test.
Marriage is by far more difficult, critical and significant than driving, often more than any diploma or career; but it is allowed without a learning period, test, or any proof of capability.
The unseen but tragically real consequences of such irresponsible (in spite of their intentions) behavior for the children may be hidden and horrible at the same time... And no one will know the consequences and remedies.
Is the most irresponsible and ignorant wish enough?
The more irresponsible and hurt the client, the more money goes to his/her divorce lawyer.

No reliable psychological systems are offered for a dependable marital compatibility test.
We dare not focus on the problem lest lawyers and politicians erect barrages to defend their divorce gold mines.
Divorce lawyers are the contributors to the divorce plague.
They have inscrutable laws, rules, procedures and hidden tricks that are revealed to the victims (“clients”) only too late, including hidden time limits and countless unspoken conventions unknown by the victims and revealed to them only too late...

USA claims to be the best society in the world, but it has the highest divorce rate in the world. That is, it has the most unstable families and society in the world.
No society in history has been able to survive a family situation like ours. That is, the unhappiest spouses, the most hurt children, who are therefore condemned to perpetuate the family crises when they marry.
The same psychologists who were forced by political pressures to declare homosexuality a “normal” behavior are now subtly conditioned into statements like “people cannot change...” (then, in parenthesis: “...unless they want to...”).
That traps the vast gullible majority of “normal” people into the wrong conclusion that “divorce is the only way”.

The same psychologists have discredited Freud’s
endeavors to motivate subconsciously reluctant people into changing themselves.
Divorce lawyers loathe people who prefer psychotherapy to divorce.

Marital and other family harmony problems are psychological or emotio-nal problems to be hand-led by psychologists and related professionals, not by lawyers, wjp gaom the most ehwn their “clients” suffer the most..
Themore they fragment the family unity and finances themore the lawyers gain.
As glibly as we approach marriage and family, we contrived divorce as a last money-making expedient instead of a solution.
Considering the quality of modern marriage, divorce takes a function of garbage disposal.
As it happens with many government agencies, divorce has become a self‑ perpetuating institution, with courts as its temples and lawyers as its greedy priests.
Politically, we have to promote more family destructions to protect the parasitic jobs of those who work in divorce-connected jobs...
What is more outrageous?
They have transformed a last recourse into a self spreading plague.
Most divorces are avoidable.
Many divorcees consider their own cases   unavoidable because of the rationalizing process they trapped themselves in, especially if lawyers help... Then, their entire life is contaminated...

When any crisis comes, we can decide to overcome it or to push it to its culmination.
When the latter approach is taken, we start endless rationalizations that reinforce our divorce decision, to the shysters’ delight, like the criminally dishonest telephone charges for calls in which the “client: victims are lured into interminable phone conversations in
which some lawyers
(the shyster kind who contaminate the profession as a whole) have developed a Satanic skill to make the client speak and speak longer and longer to ruthlessly menacing impasses that would cause more incredible bills and troubles and more expenses IF THE VICTIM DIDN’T SONTINUE SPEAKING......
(at obscene phone $$$ per hour!)
Marriage used to be a sacrament.
It still is, but like a label on an bottle; and divorce is like a flatulence, because the bottle is full of unmentionable */***.
We hire lawyers who make the most money only if we tolerate the nefarious system...
We drain our energies and patrimony into a sewer... And the next generation pays invisible horrible prices...
And Satan guffaws...
While we are trying to save our harmony..,
keep what the other party wants...
We forget that we married for the opposite goal...
We cannot stop, lest the other party and lawyer plunge like vultures into our respite.
Ever hear a judge saying that the head of a family (man or woman) must be obeyed? No, because that would avoid a juicy divorce.
In a TV program I saw a heavenly messenger stating to worshiping believers that "family is a democracy"...
Really?
How can the children choose (before they are born?) elect, depose, reelect their parents or choose another natural father or mother? How can parents resign, or change (or cut in half) their children, or impose their unwillingness to honor their duty to the children they brought to this world?
Life and reproduction are inextricably connected to each otherand to the afterdeqth.
The active human family connection is inseparable father/mother/children love. Not just sex.
The active human family fragmentation is divorce. Not just lack of love.
And we spend the rest of our lives justifying our self-destructive decision with selective recollections and reinforcing rationalizations that assure us our choice was inevitable.
Of course, the other party was always wrong.
In reality, what made it inevitable was our crossing the threshold between overcoming the crisis and escalating it.
Help?
A real attorney, a shyster, or a psychologist can help each according to the wishes of the paying client, or according to their political or philosophical trend.
Vampires can thrive in many societies.
Once crossed over, the ensuing proceedings and the lawyers set the course on an automatic non‑stop.
The solution?
We should decide against divorce, at least in principle.
We are capable of bearing much more than we thought we could, no matter what attorneys (not the shysters) and psychologists may proclaim.
Remember, BOTH SPOUSES are financially deprived if we cannot avoid the pro-divorce help...
Their children are damaged most, and mostly for life.
Besides, the more we bear now, the less we suffer in the long run.
What if the other party doesn't go along?
Well, that is a temporary insanity on one side only.
We need re-education beyond lawyers and psychologists. They cannot help us to walk if we have given up our legs.
We should not be afraid to persist, cost it what it may, even what may seem futile...
Nothing is unchangeable, including the apparently "hopeless" hostility of our opponents.
After all, a measure of our worth is our ability to cope with apparently impossible people.
Let’s say again that there is no merit in being nice only to nice persons.
In the overwhelming majority of cases, the long‑term advantages of accepting the challenge of a "second‑rate" marriage are far greater than the irreversibly ravages of any divorce.
When I was in Italy and divorce was still illegal, I remember a few cases of unhappy spouses hissing in anger to their spouses that it was a tragedy that they were not allowed to divorce...When I met them again years later, they were happy together and thanked the government and the tradition to have saved them from the tragic divorce blunder... in each of those families.
The divorce children subject alone would deserve many chapters.
Here, however, only one consideration should suffice: what would benefit the children more, or at all, marriage or divorce, both natural parents or just one?
Ask the children: if not permanently crippled by the divorce, still they offer a sobering answer.
Many parents want children the same way children want toys.
It is not difficult to imagine the educational quality in store for those toys.
What about the implicit right of the children to be born from responsible parents, above a minimum level of health, opportunities, comfort and training?
This alone should command laws and rules giving contents to the right and the manners of generating children.
At least, we should weigh the right and unavoidable duties of their children to be born healthy in a responsible environment.
John J. P. Caporaso

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That is the way it is”

The surviving honorable attorneys are besieged by the shyster sirens to adopt the same fraudulent methods with cynical appearance of honesty.

When the judge herself asked my wife in open court to confirm what kind of lonely unsociable weirdo I am, I knew that someone had fed the judge truth in reverse.
My 2 younger sisters and I (now 84, from 1924) were born in an old privileged industrial family (tannery since 1727) with the great advantage of personal tutorimg from infancy to college in Italy and Germany.
I would choose to be born again in the same family and same upbringing, from my same devoted parents and same tutors.
Of them, only my 78 year old sister and I (84) are still alive.
I came to USA on Jan. 30, 1955 from Caracas, Venezuela.
I was always dynamic, positive, nterprising, importer/expporter/
manufacturer

worldwide importer/exporter, still fluent in 5 languages (of the eight I learned..)
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When the judge asked my wife in open court to describe what kind of a weirdo loner I as, I knew she had been crassly bamboozled with the exact oposite of the truth. Psychologists call "projection":

(he/she who had a paranoid/inferiority/
guilt complex accused (projected) to me as doing to him/her what he/she always did/does. When I gave most successful parties in my big house for dozens and even over a hundred prominent fiends, professionals, etc. pliticians etc. My wife was a real loner when I campaigned for her precidency of the local Symphony Association, I was elected as a successful program chairman of my party in E. IL.... It is now that I have to live like abachelor involontary recluse in this 3-room condo, in which I

ended sine I broke 4 ribs and sufered a severe head concussion
Complaining? Protesting that a court saw me in complete reverse, did not allow me to tell my story...and the lawyers prolongued my agony to get more money...
SHE is the loner who suddenly leaves a party, urged me to buy a big house that she now hates.

Shysters can concoct documents and reactions to force a hapless respondent to pay Satanic bills or end up in the Tower of London.
Recently I got a fantastic $25,000 bill for actions and documents I had neither ordered nor approved. My objections caused him to raise the amount to $29,000 during the phone conversation.... then more charges to $33,000, which he then reduced to

$24,000 to show his "gemerosity" I forgot his Bizan5ine rationalizations...
He concluded with his “dignified” behavior

[blame the judge, of course] ... I’ m reducing the amount to $24,000, and if you pay I still need additional $15,000 in advance for the appeal...
I paid... what else, but I knew that I would lose the appeal and more money, because of his conflict of interest that drives him to malpractice ...|
A psychologist told me my wife “projects” to me by attributing to me what SHE does to me.. Clear?
Now she cynically seeks reasons to justify her virtually throwing away one of the most beautiful and prestigious
houses town, I am to live in a 3-room condo , and she still has at least 3;000 of my books,a t least 15 3’x7’ book-shelv ing units; my personal and family
Our lawyer referral service only produces specimens like him who want
$10,00 IN ADVANCE ONLY TO DISCUSS THE CASE AND WHETHER THEY ACCEPT THE CASE...
I tried the newspaper again, bud even they are afraid o lawyers. .
Then, $250.00 or more per hour paper work (plus various extras), even for simply copies of them. "Tjat is the way it is...aaaaa" .
My objections?
"irrelevant"...
Local lawyers brazenlt refuse to represent someone even for routine matters vs. another local lawyer... That is the closest to disgised "moral turpitude", if one wants to rreason rather than shyster rationalization of "the hell with you"
(I cannot fomd a euphemism...)
$150-250 or more per phone hour of frivolous conversation..
The divo rcees' losses are "irrelevant" or the sacrosanct "That is the way it is!".
We are endowed with Inequality,
alienable life,
false Liberty , frustraed Pursuit of Happnes,
all with a legal "however...".. after every Commandment.

The number of unmarried couples is multiplying like flies.
"Only suckers marry..." is no lonnger a joke..
Our indignant reaction to it is callled "IRRELEVANT" by lawyers with or without guilt complexes.
I know they have freedom of speech, but what would cost them to enrich their vocabulary?
The lawyers alone ALWAyS winin our diabolic "ad versary system" fetishism that replaces marital cooperation when lawyers intervene,
instead of restoring it with professional psychotherapy, family counseling, guidance and related methods. However, each of them can be detrimental if they are connected with pro-divorce professionals.
They cannot make any more money unless they dismember our families.
The American "adversary system" fetish kills nutual devotion...
Divorce lawyers consider adultery, deception, discord, cruelty, sadism, abuses and all kinds of misdemeanors and crimes their best allies for fat income (all deviously protected under "no-fault" , or "irrelevant ", or "That is the way it is" designations).
The best proven comm itment of marriage is: a permanent, mutual, unconditional devotion system "until death does us part".
In sounds ominous at first, yett it would be not only better, but simpler and vastly more satisfactory.
Family is where the nation starts.
Without a solid, anti-divorce family, the nation perishes.
================= Ancient Greece and Rome are the undisputable cases in point.
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Greece (umder the Macedoonian Alexander the Great) had already defeated Persia (today's Iran) in the 4th entury B. C ; but the Persians kept menacing Greeca and Europe, until the Greeks transformed much of their society into a warlike power, by decreeing that their little boys be torn from their families and camped and trained to become fearsome invincible heroes about the 3rd century B. C.
This, however, hollowed the family, beside completely marginalizing the father figure into little more than a stallion.
Thus, the Greek society and culture were ready to sink into the sands of forgettable history.
Rome was so alarmed that they hurried to make Geece a Roman province, and that made the Greeks Roman citizens, permeated with the spirit of "Patria Potestas" (paternal power) legislation that restored family unity in mutual devotion for life...
That became also the active kernel of the Roman, Christian and Western World Civilization.

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In our presently perceived reality, family harmony can only be restored or created with help of educators, psychologists and/or other pro-family counselors or clergymen.
We need legislation and training that protects family's permanent unity to reaches beyond primarily "eroticism based marriages".
The divorce-court trial is an abomination in which both "hired guns" are paid to shoot not each other, but only their own employers.

Then, the longer they dispute, the more the lawyers are paid, and the disputing contestnts pay for everything in any case... no matter which side "wins".

Besides, the court action follows and uses laws like card game rules, rather than moral reality, as in a poker game..
T he reason why so many divorce judges oppose self representation of the contestants is that their realistic argumentations on the basis of naked truth would force unpleasant relevant realities to the stage.

In moral reality, family conflicts should be resolved not by lawyers, who profit in direct ratio to how many juicy delays and difficulties they can contrive.
Apparently, the petitioning spouse (the one eho starts the divorce action) may be adulterous, violent, cruel, profligate, abusive, alcoholic, depraved, or w orse...
It is the famkly lawyer's consensus that they side with the "petitioner", because that causes more court actions and the highest payments to the lawyer's habit of undertaking expensive actions without the clicnt's approval (the contract surreptitiously allows anytning the lawer wants to do, mcludimg that this is somehow unirue. etc.
Not lomg ago, I read that USA has 80% OF THE WORLD'S LAWYERS.
What are we waiting for? Contact non-shyster lawyers!

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The typical FAMILY is connected with reproduction .
Years ago, an itinerant religious missionary challenged me with the question: " What is the purpose of life?"
I improvised: "Reproduction!", from the depth of my guts, where truth is said to need neither intelligence nor evidence.
Probabaly dolphins could have a better answer, since they are reputed as the only known animals with a larger brain than humans'.

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At father, mother and children unity, where love and mutual devotion has been converging since at least 40 or more centuries ago, the relative percentage of crimes, murders, violence,, all kinds of crimes and moral turpitude have not diminished, in spite of our technologic advances, beyond all our dreams or nightmares, from the wheel to cybernetics...

Moreover, human life still needs to kill other life (from animals and/or plants),to survive and thrive on the death of those we kill and devour..
The difference between us and predators like the wolf or the shark is that, whereas the predators must find, pursue and kill the prey, then dismember and devour it, most modern humans only eat what other specialized people have chased or raised, killed, harvested and prepared what most of us eat.
The sane (without chase) happens with the plants we eat.
By distributing our survival functions to diverse persons, we have created a society that pivots around the family and irradiates from it.
A civilization that fails to start from the family to connect the tasks and developments together is destined to perish.
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Perhaps we should be inspired by the misteriously superior dolphins (as explained above).
Probably they developed solutions we ccan not even imaτgine...., beyond swimming for thousands of miles and days..., (dolphins may have worthier ideas/goals, naked truth without hypocrisy.. and more.. Almost everybody knows the usual answers about marriage and family, and we have incredibly more divorces than our failing marriages could justify.
Marriage laws seem to benefit only or primarily "family lawyers" (they cisdain being called "divorce lawyers) who dismember countless families, progenies and descendants, beyond national disaster.

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On a dark Friday evening, June 23., 2006, a server came to my home and delivered me a "court order". I asked what it was, because I am blind. He said "You must appear in court on July 3.... You have plenty of time" .
I immediately faxed a copy of that dovument to my lawyer.
The server and/or I did not see that it was a "constraining order" to leave my corporation premises and my 23-room house with over 3,500 books in my 3-roorm office full of customized computers, printers, cybernetic and other eqipment, where I worked day and night.... for operations and all decisions and activities.
Therefore, all my corporation executives quit, except the one who remained as the new "plant manager", presumably under me,. but I was ousted by a msinformed judge), despite the false agreement that the measure was "temporary" , it remained unchanged for 20 MONTHS) as of now, February 2008, and still on for no real oral, or written, or otherwise valid reason.
I received no salary, no support for any reason or plan: I only survived on life savings cash...
Sddenly, I HAD 23 employees not reporting to me any more, and I am the only chemist. THAT MEANT a MICKEY mOUSE chemical OPERATION ON OUR PROCESSED COMPOUNDS AS SENT TO THE CUSTOMERS.
Now (June 3008) we have 11 empoyees left, because the executives don't trust my corporation without me...
No lawyer informed the judge aboout the true ("irrelevant") situation only I knew..in spite of my continuous warnings.
Now I am 84 ( as of Jan j. 1st, 2008), a chemistt and falsely expelled entrepreneur, deprived of my overdue salaries and bonuses, sole forkulator of oll Abatron produced ccompounds, designer f the plant and all prooduction processes, slandered and abuses of all suffered abuses, still deprived of virtually all personal belongings, ove 3000 books and countless other personal possessions, including ALL MY CEMICAL ALMOST 8,000 FORMULAS, SCIENTIC BOOKS AND RECORDS I NTRUSTED MW TH WHILEI I WAS INCAPACITATED WITH 4 BROKEN EIBS AND A SEVERE HEAD CONCUSSTION.
Founder (since 1959), presieent, and sole owner of 100% shares ) of a sussessfullo,chemical manufacturing Illinois corporation.
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For the records:
In 1979, I, 55 (chemist, industrialist), married MW, 33, (luck;ess lawyer), who thus moved immediately from her 2-room apartment to my 16-room brick Tudor house I had built 20 years before on top of the most scenic hill in Slee;y Hollow, IL..
In 1984-5, since her legal activity had no luck, she gradually joined my corporation, so that I could train her to take over within about 10 years or so, upon my retirement.
In 1980, she had born our beauriful and healthy son, Marco.
As both she and I have strong personalities, we faced compatibility problems that could be easily defined under our corporation law and my own bylaws.
Yet, that solution was absurdly sidestepped by distorting it to an incongruous family law pattern that handled my corporation as if it were a small paint store...
Psychologists defined me a "genius" (upon a court-ordered test). [Sorry for the tlacky immodesty demanded by legally straight truth] on a level above 99% of rhe American population.
My wife's scores are her private matter,quite differently, on the theory tnat "people cannot change"...., "unless they want to".
She is horrified by any test of her in depth; which aggravates her psychosis progressively woerse...
But that suggests the urgency of finding a way to nmotivate the suffering recalcitrants to change or improve themselves. or whatever haunts them..
In a marital impasse handled in court rather than by psychotherapy or other counseling, the tested person may be crushed, and the "winner" may develop a life-long guilt- and/or inferiority complex.
The apparently one-dimensional judge made an irreversible decision, due to the misleading behavior apparentlof both lawyers. (frequent in our over-burdened trials) likely aggravated by crass truth falsifications.
It fragmented our family and cursed our son's future.
Ironically, it made me a betrayed victim who won all his life, and was suddenly back stabbed when he became blind and was about to retire in a suffocated trumph.

So, she was misguided and suborned by malevolent "friends" toward a disputed "no-fault divorce" which became a nightmare in a misguided coourt... Both lawyers won, and both spouses were devastated.
ESspecially I, the respondent.
If such problems are resolved as described, our march downwards will continue....
J.J.P.C.
Wednesday, Juky 2, 2008.
I went to a lawyer to tray to appeal against the last divorce court order: Too late: the appeal deadline has expired.
|My reasons for the Missing it: irrelevant.
Why?
Fanily besieged

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About 75 years ago, I was in a house in an old European contry and Catholic environment, playing evening games with other children... (most names and details are avoided for privacy)..
Suddenly, the main entrance opened wide and a dozen adults entered agitated, speaking,..around a man who answered to all in great concern:
"Yes... he broke his wife;s arm... He shoud be punishmed. But calling the police would have his great career stupidly destroyed, his wife and children would become a criminal's wife and marked children..
He must repent and change to his wife's satisfaction,
if we are able to convince him to do so...".......
[my free translation from a foreign language]
They also called a priest under the confesion secrecy. Years later, the victimized wife stopped me: "Do you remember ....?. ..
That solution saved not only my husband and his career, but also me and our chidren's growing up under devoted father and mother together. .And my husband became such a loving and successful person
We all love and need him... And I thank God that no divorce existen in those days to offer its disastrous temptation... and I and our children would have never known what we would have lost...."
[this uneerlined remark showed a depth percaption most people miss]
Yes, many divoorcees will never know what they have lost...
The deliberate blind polarizing sophistry of divorce lawyers and courts would have created life-long hidden disasters. Unfortunately, lawyers can rationalize the worst to replace the best .
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Another remembrance deserve intence focusing:
I was about 9 or 10 when I told my mother: ".I am glad to tell you that I will always obey my father bexause hi is right". My mother remrked: "Never say that again! You obey ECAUSE HE IS YOUR FATHER. His being right or not is another matter, independently of your love or devotion.".
The more experience I gain, the more I honor and love that commandment...
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Divorce is a curse that may contaminate irreversibly anything it touches. Including the children's cildren...

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================ A divorce lawyer can only prosper by helping spouses to fragmentk their own family to death.
A ":family lawyer" who rescues a family into harmony will earn much less than by helping them into evil mediocrity,

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There are numerous ssituations where dunces form spontaneous alliances against people they consider smarter. and thus dangerous enemies, according to "adversary system" or inferiority complex postures.

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Killing any member of a family is not as virulent as the divorce curse spreading from poisoning the family unity and devotion.
Dismembering the family for marital disagreements is like spraying gasoline on a house fire.
The poetry and reality of "until death does us part" sustain the atmosphere our short life needs for facing eternity.

If you don't understand, read it
again... and you will.

Death is the threshold to immensely more than just pious angels with clumsy wings and incongruous harps.
The more we reject our pre-divorce life, the more we poison a past that is our inescapable basis.
The most insidious consequence is that both divorcees and their children keep brainwashing themselves that divorce was the better choice.
This self deception can cause subconscious complexes beyond help.

In some American states, lawyers promote the "no-fault divorce" and 50/50 glib wealth partition courts can seldom grasp.
Marriage for looks fail easily when looks are all there is.
We require a license for driving a car, after proper tests and serious training.
Marriage is by far more difficult, than any diploma, but it is allowed without training, test, or any proof of needed maturity.
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There are no publicly compeyent psychological systems capable of developing or testing marital compatibility.
One gets away with the excuse that marriage is a "natural right".
The same as with animals?
Another natural "right" is to have children.
Many parents want children the same way children want toys.
It is not difficult to imagine the educational quality in store for those "toys".
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What about the implicit right of the children to be conceived and raIsed by responsible parents, above minimum levels of health, education, comfort and training?
That alone needs basic research in depth, theories and methods that we should have developed many centuries ago, if we could have focused on them properly.
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The boundless "exasperation" of a little baby's screaming
(perhaps starting with the initial "to breath or not to breath")
that seems to prevail with life/death rage and ignored imploration or something terrible may happpen in the baby;s whole world trhat desperately
wants attention..., or it might die too late...
Maybe many great possibilities to develop superior perception, comprehension, communication, superior emotional equilibrium and other capabilitis are atrophied or otherwise lost beyond remedy.
The case of the liffle boy the disappeared in a village in India and was find alive and healthy after being lived only with jubgle animals. All his body functions were normal, inclusing his voice, but his faculty or learning to speak had been irriveersebly lost for not having been nustured in time..
Is it possible that like the monkeys who were unable to nurture the speech function, we are not nurturing faculties in our babies before the time os expiration of those facultire surrendered to atrophy of those faculties?
Constrained in our inability to comprehend, all we are left with is a somehow guilty frustration that we learn to live with glibly..and forget.
Imagine all the above nappened, happens and will victimize hapless couples who seek help from divorce lawyers
(like chickens imploring foxex for help against foxex...) with their pprimitive intellectual background with "irrelevant", "Tnat is the way it is" and conclusions between $$$$ papers,$$$$telephone, $$$$court sterile prattles, and even $31,000.00 for things I hav e neither ordered nor approved in my last court action. "But you signed a contract" that was only read to me with the usual rules read after the game is over" and the judge will relevantly approve... because "that is the way it is".
Tthose who validate that kind of juridical "wisdom" are heir of a cultural tradition that stems from the Bible maniacs (fanatic misinterpreters) of our 17th century A. D., which cannot remotely compare with the over 30,00 volum Roman "Juris Prudentia" and already developed for over 2,000 years when the Pilgtims started their one-dimensional Bible/ Common Law cocktail inspi rations.
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At least, we should weigh the right of parents to have children and the right of children to be conceived amd born in a responsible environment with tested educational systems to the very best of our seriously analysed knowledge.
Lacking that, we are condemmned to remain trapped in our present humanistic stagnation in millennnia of inanity...
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When I first married in Germany, my wife and I were tested against syphilis (tnen a world wide concern),like everybody else.
Ideally, they should have tested us also against everyting else possible,

I (chemist and industrialist), 55. She was unable or unwilling to marry from a vatiety of men she dated each only briefly.

We were both undesirable prospects: she for "lonely search for answers" and I for living alone with 6 minor children (one daughter died in a car accident).
My 3rd wife was a lonely office lawyer employee in Chicago.
As we married, she moved from her 2-room apartment in Chicago to my 16-room brick Tudo(continuously alive with friends, parties and social events that were perhaps too much for my not gregarious wife).

She delivered our beautiful son 9 months later. My youngest daughter (from my rirrst mariage) took care of him while his mother worked.
About 4-5 yeas later, my wife gradually started to work in my plant to be trained to inherit it.
She had no knowledge of chemistry, business, inventory, purchasing, production, manufacturing, planning, accounting, sales, marketing, supervision of any kind, export, .import, planning, technical service. She learned with my cotinuous help...
I introduced her at least 30 ttmes to most of Europe by travel, vacation and business, as well my relatives there;busines occasions
n 1995, we moved to the present location in nother state, she made me buy a 23-room mansion in the best neighborhood

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She never revealed that this state had "no-fault divorce" and enforced 50/50 estate partition (she contributed no wealth, knowledge or estate .
Had I known it, I would have chosen another state or made a proper marital agreement... and I would have avoided our nefarious divorce that transformed her into an ireiversible enemy.
I think, her father's (small farmer) sudden desertion from his wife and 3 little girls) was reportedly so shocking, that it crippled her emotional feelings toward men and fathers.
That made her the ideal victim of divorce lawyers, who had no trouble convinci ng her to... throw me to jail with cynical fabricated legal triicks (later erased).
As per the ancient curse:
"I'll drag you all the way down, if it takes scrubbing floors on my knees for the rest of my life!"
(only an idiot would call it "irrelevant")
I ended up cought by surprise, when I was served the divorce petition.. while I was in the worst deprssion for losing my eyesight. and about to unfold what I had been developing for years to double the size of my corporation in USA and abroad...
I had not even been offered a corrective marital or business contract!
Meanwhile, since 2005, I developed the worst kind of "wet macular degeneration" blindness, just when I was about to complete my successful chemical formulations (adopted by the Government and Space Administration),_business plans to at least double the size of my corporation, while my wife was still in training.
That in spite of my worsening heart condition (sensitive to emotional stress, rather than to work or intellectual stress).
She suddenly filed for the accompanying 50/50 mickeymouse partition of everything, just when I meeded her most and I was striving to prepare her administraive takeover by inheritance...
As gtacious as being killed by the one whose life you have saved...
Both her lawyer and mine used their best skills to transform the the divorce into an interminable series of innuendos and provocations that cried for non-existing mercy about permanently hurting our (uninvolved son.s included) reconciliation possibilities....
It's like being forced to look at ourselves in tortures neither of us wanted for the other ...
Now, my lawyer has has the ludicrous hope that I hire him for an appeal, when he could be kkk disbarred for moral turpitude, because it establishes as ethical an irreversible cynicism by he lawyers with a tinge of sadism toward the residents of their same town.

The judge accusd me of speaking a "foreign .language" when I was asked by the court recorder to spell the German names of research insitutes where I had worked in Germany. ...She also asked myy wife to confirm that I was like a recluse, whreas I am ttypically gregarious, giving big parties at home and abroad. , and in in my party as he program chairman...
I always had more friends than she ever had . . Someone must have lied to the judge beyond belief, about me, to cover up my wife's isolation and hostility troubles..
I believe judges should not be elected; especially not by lawyers to be pleased. In most countries they are selected by examination.
Any leader in any electoral system is seldom on a higher moral level than the average electors.

Misinformed courts handle many cases by declaring argumentations, protests and requests as "irrelevant" , as well as marginalizing the "respodent" personally exposed defense. ..:
It seems that
the court acted
as it could not allow a respondent to reveal what the other lawyerdisliked...
The judge often has a big load of cases and must dispatch them to fit schedules.... kkk
My sight and hearing kept worseneng... to a point tha I could hardly see or hear what was going on in the court room
I had to aitribute all to... local legal...folklore...,
presumably perceived only when it was too late for me to explain...
By a "slip of the tongue" after the last court event, I found our that my lawyer was not allowed to act against my previous laywyer's deserting me (simply noto showing up ) in his first court appearance for me on June 27 2006 and allowing no witnesses (my procuction manager, m y office manager, my chief chemist, my shipping/receiving manager and a laboratory technician were about to come, when my unwanted (AGAINST MY WILL) substitute legal assistant rejected them.
My oppondnt's witnesses were only a receptionist and a newly ermployed office clerk. No one else wanted to testify for her.
Malpactice?
Lawyers told me I would need to pay a lawyer to claim malpratice. The lawyer is hostile if I don't pay $10,000 in advance before he only examines what it is all about...
sodom and Gomorrah?
They say the judge fears the shyster vendetta...
Well , the judge has to make a living too...
My witnnesses were scared away and resigned, exept the one who was then promoted as shipping manager (my undisputable 50-year jewel and unblemished pride is now beig temporarily overlooked but not ignored.
Since 1959, my corporation, its products and projects have been my exclusive creation. Transfering all to my heirs was mydesign anyhow.
Also for tax easons...

The corporation is now sole property of a woman whom I was training to succeed me 100% as my heir. When the normal difficulties of implementaation induced us to call legal help for smooothening the asperities, the lawyers made such a treacherous mmess of incimpatiblities that we found ourselwes involved in a contested divorce situation...
I fired my lawyer because he only wanted me to attack the woman I love... and I learned how pracarious a new lawyer search can be.
As the judge advised me to ask my wife lawyer for a reputable attorney, he hurled at me aprroximately:
" Anything I;d do for you would only be to damage you, for that is what I am being paid for!", and that was it..
Even more despicable than ehat we think of depreved prostitutes!
Even the pre-Stoone Age jumanoid would have been shocked... And he was even visibly proud about it! (were hominids really so despicable?
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Tragically, I know of one despicable person who wold not hesitate to prostittiute my ex wife and son that far down...
Concomitantly, She is the one who exp;oyted and damaged me the most and, and I am the one who helped and love her the most...

== The technical and corporate intricacies of a chemical industrial enterprise cannot be handled like a paint store and family law... Thus, both parties could only blame each other without end...
3 lawyers have created a fetid atmosphere for themselves alone...
My lawyer sends me copy of a letter of the opposing lawyer that I must quit the claim of owning my corporation that I founded and owned alone in itts unencubered and uninterrupted totality since 20 years before my exwife and I met,
to yield full ownership of ,my corporation to my ex-wife-to-be, as well as to money received by her for selling my belongings while I was incapacitated by an accident...
All that against the evidence that I committed neither crimes, not misdemeanors, nor demerits or anthing that the judge and the other lawyer or anyone could claim against me, directly or indirectly.... .
My lawyer adds his raccomendation that I will not surrender ...
Then, we go to court and I am commanded to sign what no one reads to me (blind) I am told to yield and sign complete surrender...
I object.
My objection is "irrelevant", JUST LIKE ME. What is the reason? "That is the way it is"...
So after being forced to give away a two- million dollas yearly net sales growing company, I am left with a commercial fixed income remtal building (if the tenants stay and pay) 80 miles away,where I cannor drive because of my blindness, while the corp oration has illimited groth possibilities....
Is someone insane or ready to dish out the usual "relevant" lies?

UN DER CONSTRUCTION

To boot: a bill of $31,000 to the victim... Nothing that he did produced any other result that detailed itemization of whatever I neve read before, for unneeded services I never ordered or agreed to.
Think: we all agree, shake our head... and do nothing about it...
We can crucify the victims who dare to protest, without a procedure which obliterates what the victim had to say... Irrelevant?
And he must pay or else, after being abused, amd goes back into oblivion.
Death resolves everything. ..
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They also allow the petitioner to accuse the respondent without proof, as my wife accused me of harassment (her "no fault' ).
SHE HARASSED ME FOR 28 YEARS, BUT SHE FALSELY ACCUSED ME OF HARASSMENT, THEN SHE HAD ME FALSELY ARRESTED, AND EVEN EXSPELLED FROM MY 100% OWN PLANTWITHOUT ANY EVIDENCE OR EXPLANA ION.
THAT IS HOW I LOST MY 100% OWN 50-YEAR OLD CORPORATION WHICH I FOUNDED IN 1959.
|=== My wife declares she has lost or is keeping and refusing to return all my records, confidential formulations, (my personal intellectual property) other personal belongings, documents, family records and memories...
and other possessions I entrusted her with while I was incapacitated from 4 broken ribs and severe head concussion.
The no-fault law sounds desirable especiay for immoral and criminal people, but it can be ferociously destructive of family, society, morality and freedom (let alone the financial mess).
It protects and encourages irresponsibility, sadistic abuses, unlimited adultery, cruel immorality and unleashes nimaginable distortions in a childhood that neither social workers, laws, nor psychologists are prepared to face.
Can anyone dwell as long as needed on each of those mental and emotional cases as long and deeply as it deserves?
For instance, how can the true devotion of a loving spouse be cynically ignored by the law, if “no fault divorce” gives to one sadistic spouse the right to ignore the suffering the sudden desertion by one spouse can cause to the other and to the family?
And judges need to be re-elected by those lawyers.
It would be like authorizing torture and suicide with Satanic indifference..
“Oh well, we are too busy to focus on it...”
that is our infamy...
One lawyer told me: "You must play by the rules, which are only concerned with law, not with morality or justice".
Which god blessed America?
The same as in a card game in which the rules are revealed only after the game is over...
What is the use of suggesting what the spouse should have done?
Will anyone remember the poor victims?
Well... Life goes on...
Many marriages fail because of disastrous consequences, unknown to the victims.
We are not aware or knowledgeable enough.
Nor are the lawyers eager to let us know how to choose a solution that helps the client, if it means less money for the lawyer.

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****-- TOUCHED BY AN ANGEL
****-- LET MY FAMILY GO
****-- WHO IS THE BOSS
****-- DODO PSYCHO COPULATION CONSULTANTS
****-- THE EGG-CHICK-EGG
****-- LOVE COMES NEXT
****-- SALVATION IN MULTIPLICATION
****-- THE INDISPUTABLE

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TOUCHED BY AN ANGEL

2003 A. D. comments:
A plump, middle-aged, "minority" woman (in contrast with the traditional slender, Jung "Caucasian" girl with long flowing straight blond hair and white gown), acting as a heavenly angel in a nationally telecast show, proclaimed with unshakeable authority:

"FAMILY IS A DEMOCRACY".
Now, consider:
In an y of its variations, "democracy" is a political, economic, legal form of society governed by elected officials and groups periodically elected and/or changed or deposed by a voting majority of citizens who enjoy equal rights and independence from each other.
Children's parents are not elected, but determined by the ovum/sperm copulation. Nor can they be deposed or changed by the children. Parents cannot do the same to their children. Nor would they want to.
On the other hand, relentless social, political, legal and educational pressures are continuously brought to deactivate and eventually disintegrate the family and parental authority.
Divorce by simple request (even divorce of children from parents), sex degenerated to simple gratification like food or drink, homosexual "rights" imposed as equal to heterosexual status, children provided with condoms and sexual intercourse instructions and even condoms in elementary public schools without parental consent (suggesting abstinence or premarital virginity is considered "irresponsibly unrealistic"), crass ultra-feminist and gay propaganda against heterosexual man and family.
Child murder by govern-supported abortion is considered a "free choice" right, without parental knowledge and consent of a pregnant minor...
Wild hetero- and homo-sexual orgies are a "civil right".
It looks like a mutation toward the Biblical Sodom and Gomorrah, whose citizens were depicted as the most depraved society on Biblical record.
Like today's degenerates, however, they thought that their way of life was desirable and logical....
They were and are the human maggots who take over when the social body has decayed.
The sliding toward decay has been facilitated by a negative reproduction rate, as it is now in Italy (the dictator Benito Mussolini (1883-1945 a. d.) reversed it only when he was in power (1922-1943 a. d.), by decreeing tax-free any family with 6 or more children. The rest of Europe has now a zero or negative birth rate. The concomitant economic decay, heavy Moslem and undesirable (illiterates) immigrants contribute a probably irreversible depression...

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LET MY FAMILY GO0

1972 A. D.
Our sanctioned TV plots and commercials show:
A spineless clumsy father, a wise and defensive mother ("role model" demanded by the feared ultra-feminists), and an unreachable, brittle child.

How to raise children: vitamins, nutrients, toys, and "Psychology Today" magazine placebos.
Conventionally "wise and refined", the woman is shown how to attract men with cosmetic strategy and how to be
irresistible with sterilized sex appeal.
Man is tough and fearless, enterprising too. But at home he is lost. He fears her (really: the show producers fear the feminists).
And she spurns him gracefully.
To the child, they never say: "Stop pouring hot soup on your sister's head!". Instead: "You see, when I was a child, once I touched my sister's hair...". ***/
Or, the closest ever: "Darling, you don't want Sissy's hair to become messy and soupy, do you?".
As a teenager, the child is a nuisance, because he wants the truth straight and pleasant. Mom and daddy are afraid of him. So, the school must do the job. But the school is only geared to the minimum standards above uselessness and crime, in spite of emphatic claims to virtue and patriotism.
What is the situation?
Our highest divorce rate in the world apparently condemns an "Establishment" that (de)forms the family into media-friendly patterns.
Yet, the highest incidence of divorces is among the "enlightened" youth, who try to fit family into their own fads, which supplant the traditional "antiquated views".
The family fits the reality of human nature, not our opinions and theories about it.
It cannot be forced into a pattern that mirrors only what we hardly understand.
The present conventional values are anti family, although our "leaders" claim the opposite.
If the traditional family ideals of loving care, mutual support, enduring cohesion were expanded to society, they would replace some insurance and banking empires, our welfare cancer, one-dimensional bureaucracy and most present political postures.
The Human Family, feared by those who feel united in shared hatred, would supersede ideologies, parties, and politics.
The independent and bellicose ("rugged") individualism has been installed on altars, and the family itself is being sacrificed to an insatiable individualism god.
Like society, family is a natural form of cooperation and interdependence through love, concern, active care, mutual help, intent on developing human beings, not consumer/ producers, worker/citizens, or unconcerned do your-own-thingers.
Insects are probably the best examples of independence, from the moment they hatch.
The best workers, citizens, consumer-producers and do my own thingers (as impersonally ordained) are like ants.
Human independence is only possible as developed with caring awareness, just as the child's ego develops from awareness of the surrounding world.
Of course, both the "Establishment" and the "progressives" claim they want the caring, loving family and society. But they fail because they mistakenly think they know what caring, love, harmony and truth are.
No matter how damaged by transient fads, family still exists, like human nature.
It starts "nuclear" (father/mother/children) and becomes "extended", societal, as human nature evolves, without regard to the faddish meanings we give to those concepts.
Attempts to make the family fit any image are like attempts to make our bodies digest cellulose because it would be so convenient.
Goats and termites can do it, not we.
Of course, family undergoes evolution: but human evolution.
A new theory or faith is not evolutionary as such, even if it is gift wrapped with words like "rational", "Christian", "modern".
Family needs imperatives demanding togetherness and devotion.

We should not trust absolutes, but ordained relativism is also an absolute.
We accept many absolutes, from "Thou shalt not kill" to "No smoking".
Family has long accepted its own, such as loyalty, devotion, cooperation, fidelity, protection, regardless of law, age, gender.
Love, fervently hoped for, is a selfless duty in a family.
Refusing or omitting help, in any needed form, just because a family member is of "major age', mature adult or whatever is appropriate to an insect family (where children are independent from the moment they hatch), but truly degenerate in a human family, where love is nurtured from childhood.
The Greek culture was destroyed by the social suffocation of the family with customs and laws that nullified the paternal authority. The Romans restored the "patria potestas" (paternal authority) and with it the resulting patriotism and "patria" (from "pater"- father).
We observe cynicism add hatred in families without father or paternal authority.
The more sophisticated or evolved any family is, the higher are its standards, but the previous standards are improved in converging love, rather than replaced with diverging individual hostility.
If family is permanent because human child-hood is the longest, and because woman is fertile only a limited time, and man virtually until death, then the present social complexity demands family's permanence.
After all, the learning period, or childhood, is longer now than ever before.
Already before puberty, the child learns to internalize concern, care, enlightened self-aware-ness, with pleasure in satisfying the need to useful knowledge.
If this need is frustrated, it may degrade in revengeful egotism.
That has become the unintended cause of two disastrous social changes:
(1) lowering the majority age from 21 to 18;
(2) Lowering the expected retirement age.
The opposite should have happened in both cases.
=== First, the stunning worldwide culture developments in the 20th century have raised the minimum educational level of survival and maturity from 21 to 25 years. Instead, lowering it to 18 has been utterly counter-producing. Consequently, statistics comparing those who were legally adult at 18 and those who did it at 21 must show the shocking truthThe divorce percentages alone of the 18-2o-year-old married, employed, etc. aren't even worth checking
Nowadays, a high school diploma is almost no long a survival tool, unless it is raised to at least B. A. or B. S. level Retirement age should have rised, due to medical progress, longevity, necessity of more experienced workers, teachers, scientists, leaders, minimized need for muscular strength
The blunder of lowering majority age to 18 was a political move by those who would gain votes from: soldiers, ambitious or rebelling students, parents unwilling to support growing children, parents who cannot inspire defiant teenagers with higher goals than "the value of money", "education to get a good job", "stay out of trouble", "do your own thing", no matter how well intentioned, cause serious damage.
Thus we have spoiled brats, cynical individuals, ruthless hedonists who contaminate society.
Without disciplining parents who materially or figuratively spank them, and can use other means made for recalcitrant minors, we
are doomed to fall into the claws of pretentious mediocrity
They are among the teenagers who drop out from family, school and society.
Some claim and sincerely believe they can start new societies. They cut their childhood too short and become too soon "adults" of a special kind: as they cannot continue to develop their sensitivity and caring awareness, they develop a thick skin; they become "cool".
Ideally, the teenager never leaves the family when he "leaves" it: he only expands his developing need and ability to contribute to society, after starting them within the family.
With this, it is purely academic to distinguish between "nuclear" and "extended" family.
The human family doesn't care to conform to any definition popping out of 4-6 years long psychology courses.
It just exists as such and as the nucleus of society
And society may be shaped accordingly, not as wished in songs or political speeches.
We should learn from it, not adapt it to our improvised knowledge. Finally, to single out the teenager or 30 , 50 , 80 ager as if he (or she, of course) had separately defined existence, instead of being integral part of the continuum between birth and death, condemns him to the same inhuman indignity as that of the arbitrarily segregated "senior citizen".
Our society has accepted the barbaric custom of a separate old age in "dignified" death row warehouses.
We are developing the same indignity for the embarrassing nuisance of the teenagers who need to fit and evolve in spite of our shallow values, inhuman conditions, incompetent educational system and technocratic Moloch.
The "gap"?
The old blame the Jung and vice versa.
(The "adversary system" fetishism takes over).
Instead of blame, both need help: from each other. Sincere reaching out would suffice as a beginning.
Hardly anything is more insidiously ridiculous than a Jung "expert" teaching an octogenarian how to live.
Only the deserter is beyond help, since he puts himself beyond reach.ult. But so is a good life.

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WHO IS THE BOSS

Man is, of course.
No, it is not a facetious statement.
Nor is it unjust or bad or good, repulsive or attractive.

We don't even know to what extent it is true or false.
Nor do we know what "boss" means in this context.
Yet, we keep debating and digging trenches on the justice of our patriarchal (or what is left of it) patterns.
First, it is remarkable how we avoid discussing the "justice" of things that cannot be changed.
For instance, what justice is in the fact that man is physically stronger than woman?
How just is it that woman lives longer, or that only woman bears children?
The most we can do is to be "scientific" (which is less than we think, really) instead of righteous (which is even worse) about them.
We plunge like vultures on subjects we are unable to agree upon: justice, equality, virtue, etc.
The most we can do is philosophize about them.
Someone said that science is what we know (sort of) and philosophy is about what we don't know and still argue about.
We say that we don't clearly know why or how man has always been in charge.
We know that woman supported it from time immemorial. Listen what women have been telling their sons from biblical beginnings.
A philosophical consideration, not a fact, is that it may have been right or wrong.
Let alone the unresolved puzzles of the many meanings of right and wrong.
It is remarkable how indifferently the female of countless species waits for the end of the mating fight between males. Then, she mates and remains submissively (more or less) with the winner.
What would the female goat say if a civilrightnik tried to inform her of her right to choice, independence and freedom?
The immediate choice between the ram's and her "rights" would only be the first of her many dilemmas.
It is a fact that, as long as man was firmly in charge of the family and society, marriages lasted healthily. ("because they were forced" is a sophomoric answer).
At least, they could not have been broken by today's frivolous reasons that lawyers of each spouse transform into hopeless obstacles that can only handled with divorce. And more money for the lawyer...

As to divorce lawyers, the undeniable indignity is that they lose money if the the spouses choose reconciliation... What could be worse for the family?
Add then the notion that U.S.A. has 80% of all world's lawyers, and that U.S.A. has the moral and social abomination called "default divorce" (divorce for no reason whatsoever, just for the asking, even by the most irresponsible, sadistic, adulterous, violent, profligate, in all ways contemptible spouse. To make it still worse, in many states marriage automatically gives each spouse half of the family real estate, even if a worthless spouse marries a rich one and contributes nothing even after marrying. Thus, upon divorce, the worthless one gets the half of everything, no matter what...), and we might as well dig a grave to bury the American family institution.
And we watch this degeneration progressing beyond control, AND WE DO NOTHING ABOUT IT...
And I used to think that Sodom and Gomorrah were no more than biblical figments of a sick imagination!..

Previously, the man was fully responsible for the family and had little chance to run away. Now family laws discourage marriage and promote fatherless families...
Feminists surmise that better stability would have derived from a matriarchal approach, even if every attempt at matriarchy ended in patriarchy. And it was tried almost everywhere.
Home-made example: the "African American" family is virtually matriarchal and has the worst family statistics, from single mothers and fatherless children, from poverty to crime rate...
It is quite telling that there is no historical evidence of any matriarchy having ever succeeded for any significant period anywhere in the world.
There is overabundant evidence (suppressed in official history) that wherever and wheever matriarchy was tried and supported in any time and placemin the world, it just failed, whether supported or not.
One relevant fact is that one be in charge, at least to break any eventual impasse.
Sacrificing patriarchy or matriarchy to our pompous "result--equality" and phony "liberty" fetishism is asinine idolatry.
The notion that we are entitled to "equality" and "liberty", without first learning what they are exactly, and how to use them, could be compared to that of undertaking appendectomy without knowing exactly what and where the appendix is.
And the notion that appendectomy is more complicated to understand than liberty and equality is lethal nonsense.
The pattern of orderly and productive hierarchy reigns in businesses, schools, government bodies, military and all organizations in which results are, as in the family, more important than debates.
In the case of the family, submission to paternal (or maternal) authority has always been preferred to the alternatives of marriage dissolution or unmarried life.
The bleak picture of many singles organizations, singles bars, discos and dating services show the heavy sacrifices paid on the altars of equality and independence dogmatism.
The new unmarried couples cult is one of the prices especially women and children have to pay for the emasculation of the family.
That is preciseoy what destroyed the Greek culture about 23 centuries ago.
In our case, the unmarried living together protects man, more than woman, against the trap of modern American marriage.
The ultra-feminists favor the new cult because they don't understand how it hurts woman. But the "feminazis" know, even if they don't comprehend.
They may like it that way, so that they can exploit the "victimization" of the woman by blaming it on the man. That gets them preposterous compensatory favors, until society wakes up again (in 50, 80, or 200years?).
In today's laws, the ones who are ostentatiously favored in marriage are the woman and children; but at their disastrous expense.
We have reached the point that a wife can bring her husband to court for having raped her.
Whether the court convicts the man in this case is immaterial. The absurdity is that our present laws allow a court to prosecute such a case (ever heard of "violence" or "physical cruelty"?).
We hear horror stories about man deserting the family, man beating the wife, man being irresponsible, cruel, callous...
Anti-man havens for battered women (often disguised as "family WoMan and child protection" or the like) are metastasizing like a social carcinoma, in collaboration with embarrassed police.
The same man that was presumed to be a hero of all virtues, including responsibility, integrity, unselfish love, in all remaining fields of human endeavor...
In this context, it may be immaterial to mention him as an inventor, soldier, builder..., but let it be to complete the picture.
The point is that there must be a reason why the American man is such a failure in marriage and yet so great elsewhere until about 1970, and then a no good *#&*!! Afterwards, especially if white and gainfully employed.
Somewhere, in the background, one may hear a muffled, outlawed, voice that insinuates that, perhaps, the failure is in the American ultra-feminist syndrome.
But we won't pay any attention to that.
Or that same American "feminazi" (not the traditional feminist, which -by the way- I have often supported) is not going to read beyond this point.
And she won't vote for us.
It is a fact, however, that our "liberty" does not allow us to do without the vote of any category of people possessing political clout.
The fear of reprisal or other doom creeps on anyone who dares to say something that displeases militant extremists; who, therefore, are miscalled "feminazis".
Negative or accusatory statements against man have been an American ritual for generations.
Just like those, more recently, against the white man.
Another clue: the resentment children flaunt against famous or successful parents.
Prominent parents used to be a source of pride and inspiration.
If anything, their children used to show off their advantage of coming from such parents. Which it was, if properly understood.
It was also thought that some people are so deserving that they have the right to bestow like any other inheritance-some of their rewards to their children.
It was a pleasure and a duty for the children to inherit and deserve their parents' merits. It was also a duty to use them, or else the parents would not have achieved their goals for their progeny.
Then, the tables were turned around.
The successful parents became a source of resentment for the children who could not "compete" with them.
Inheriting money was ok, after the government Revenue Mafia took its own cut.
Inheriting achievements, status and an honored name became a hindrance...
The child of prominent parents is expected to repudiate them and is offered none of the facilitations bestowed on children of obscure or otherwise disadvantaged parents.
One could remark that some men and successful parents have abused their advantages.
But that is a reason to improve education and society, not to depose a man and parent.
We can only cause worse problems if we depose the ship's captain and expect the crew to take his place merely in the name of rights, .
We have deposed man and his authority, to do away with his abuses: decapitation as a cure for headache.
The man who gets stoned at the tavern and cries in his stupor: "Listen to me, kid, don't ever marry..." is no joke at all. He is sincere, he feels victimized. Even if he has caused suffering to his wife and children...
It could be that, for generations, man has heaped pretentious assumptions on himself alone not on the woman with exhilarating bravado.
In the tradition of blaming male responsibility, woman has gladly adopted the superman concept.
The consequent expectations have become woman's rights and man's duties...
Then, we are bound to discover that superman cannot fly.
And one wonders why one man after another gives up and has no alternative but to run away.
No problem for the lawyers: "that is the way it is" and they make more and more money by legislating against the status quo...
It is known that this kind of frustration cripples man also in routine duties.
That, of course, crushes the wife and mother.
The social structure created by the high expectations leaves her powerless...
She is a victim, and she enjoys it subconsciously.
So, more reasons to pursue man.
It is a Catch 22 situation that is hidden.. but very visible for those who want to look.
In the process, as shown in divorce settlements, the children are handled as mother's belongings.
So the house.
The best the father can obtain is visitation rights. After all, he must pay alimony and child support.
In other words, he loses virtually all the rights he thought he had as a father and husband, and is burdened with virtually all the duties.
Under these conditions, all a man can hope from a woman is sex gratification.
For that purpose, marriage is like building a castle for a chicken.
It won't take long, for modern woman, to realize that she is the real loser in today's unmarried arrangements.
The most elemental evidence is clear enough when she fulfills her motherhood and the man is no longer there.
Some have proposed to try a matriarchal style.
We don't have to go far to find manifestations of its elements:
most American black families are matriarchal.
In those cases, the man has no incentive to marry.
Like any other man of any culture in the same conditions, he has even lost interest in the children. They practically belong to her, not to him.
The progeny continuity takes more than just a copulation, especially if the copulation is spent with a simple act: Non sequitur.
Whether it is man's or woman's fault, why should any sensible man accept responsibilities that leave him with duties without rights or rewards?
The law is progressively eroding man's (white and black) incentive to get involved with marriage and children. He may delude himself that he counts something, as father and husband, until a divorce or law packing "gender feminism" gives him the rudest awakening.
Those who legislate patriarchy away from the present family will have to create an unbearably complicated mountain of rules, laws and controls to "protect" the family
into extinction.
No wonder matriarchy has always failed in all cultures.
What can be done, then, to restore the family?
Let's restore the traditional man incentive roles of leadership and authority which, by the way, are desired by the normal woman.
What if the man doesn't deserve them?

The law, ultra-feminism and the anti-man/anti-patriarchy environment have deprived him of any incentive. All a woman offers him is the self-extinguishing sex gratification.

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DODO PSYCHO

Life may be 3.5 billion years old. Perhaps a little less or more.
Without asking for our approval, it has established and developed myriads of things we do not even perceive.
That's good, since ou r choice could have delayed and spoiled everything.
Life also developed myriads of things inside, around and variously connected with what we think we know.
Take a mother and her Jung.
Wherever the Jung need parent's guidance, a stroke of the paw, a push or any indisputable command is definitely effective.
It is the result of 3.5 billion years of trial, error, establishment and endless improvements.
Suppose, now, that psychologists, biologists, zoologists and other specialists determine to analyze that behavior and decide that, say, a pussycat is no longer to use her paw or other unreasoned methods to teach her kittens.
Instead, she must use a system that allows the kittens to use their own evaluation or other free reaction to voluntarily adopt the mother's teaching.
Nonsense, we would say.
Well, read about fashionable 20th century child psychologists, e.g. John Dewey...
They do it with the mother and children of the human species, in America.
They come up with the apparently obvious theory (psychologists have to come up with something "better than nature", or who needs them?) that a child should never be forced but convinced by an adult who deserves their respect.
To state that a parent must deserve the respect of his/her children seems so logical and obvious, that it would be difficult to disagree with it.
A divorced friend of mine let's call him Fred was dating a girl who gave the best argument against it.
She had three children that showed an unbearable behavioral pattern.
The oldest was a 12 year old girl with an uncanny talent to break plates, glasses, bottles, and hide the broken pieces under the carpet, or leave them on the floor.
She also burst into loud crying every time anyone said something she didn't like. She ran to mommy and mommy asked Fred to be more understanding.
Her younger brother, 11, was a misfit brat.
The first time he came to Fred's home, Fred's sons were playing pool. He entered the room, grabbed the "8 ball" and said he was going to play too...
When Fred tried to explain that the others wanted to finish their game first, he became despondent and said Fred was a lousy host.
Their little sister, 10, ran all over opening drawers, the refrigerator, file cabinets etc., and took whatever she liked.
That kind of behavior manifested itself constantly in numerous forms.
Their mother never tried to correct them. When Fred tried, just to protect other people involved, the children invariably ran to mommy to complain about him.
Mommy told him, in their presence, that her children didn't listen to him because he didn't do anything to deserve their respect.
Now, what is the meaning of deserving the respect of misbehaving children who can appreciate (or respect) only someone who bows to their whims?
The respect due to a parent or an adult in authority (or not) depends on his position and function, not on a frivolous requirement that makes inexperienced or incompetent spoiled children the judges.
We must assume that the person in authority deserves that authority until somebody can prove the opposite, the same as a free man is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty.
As psychologists have developed full libraries of abundantly documented researches, data, results, theories, refinements of the same in any conceivable direction, their scientific fortress surely looks impregnable.
With all probability, it is.
A fortress can be built with the best materials and the most advanced architecture. It may be designed to be the strongest fortress on Earth.
But, leaving all those attributes intact, that very fortress that resists any attack by anyone can crumble because of wrong foundations.
Now, accepted rules would require me to document my statement that families of psychologists may have more divorces, problem children, emotional problems, alcoholism or other addictions or whatever.
Imagine now, I stop for months or years of research to accumulate data for a statement that should not need it because many researchers have already proven it many times.
What if families of psychologists have fewer of those problems, but not few enough to justify the advantages of psychological savvy...
As a matter of fact, psychologists seem to have, statistically, even worse psychological problems than non-psychologists.
Certainly not less divorces or happier children.
I suspect we could say the same of lawyers.
Well, both lawyers and psychologists may develop superb competence of procedures and patterns developed on wrong premises.
Moreover, they are not alone: educators, coaches, therapists..., as well as politicians, legislators (this is only a partial list...) and post-modern parents are exposed, and extremely vulnerable to the same contaminations...

Well, the nonsense I have heard from pseudo psychologists is far too much more than one would expect as a result of years of college education and professional practice (which sees in most cases only what confirms their prestigious prejudices and ignores what invalidates them).
I admit that they learn a lot. But a lot of wrong theories it is little more than science-coated trivia.
Today's theory ridicules yesterday's.
Tomorrow/s theory proves today's theory wrong or even dangerous...
Haven't we learned it yet?
That is another reason why the solid and permanent family is a safe haven.
We have heard for millennia that love is miraculous...
Everything else is undependable by comparison.
Take for instance educational theories.
Montessori, Freud, Jung, Adler, Gestalt, Transactional, Logotherapy..., the list is long and futile.
Suppose a little 3 4 year old child was violently dragged from the bed to practice piano, night after night, by a father who was a failed musician, a drunkard and worse things I don't need to remember in detail.
This little boy, who was violently forced into piano playing to compensate for his father's failures, is the perfect example today's psychologists would describe of how to render a child allergic to piano and music.
That child was Ludwig van Beethoven (1770-1827). Or so they say.
Oh, I forgot, all you have to do, now, is to use the hindsight: dig a few details in Beethoven's biography, and take a few more here and there to justify, rationalize and come up with a brilliant theory that you can forget.
There was a time in which children were raised with obedience.
Instead of psychology, they used the Ten Commandments [before they added a “HOWEVER” to each Commandment].
I am not a Bible scholar, nor a believer in the perfection of the Ten Commandments, but they surely work better than any psychological theory, diagnosis, prognosis, methodology, transactional analysis, pedagogy and more...
Now, what would a psychologist say in favor of obedience?
It wouldn't sound as scientific as an intricate explanation of how to generate better response with a sophisticated and reasoned free adoption of the loving parent's suggestion...
Then, of course, don't forget that we must consider the “origin of consciousness in the breakdown of the bicameral mind”, and fit it with picking a cherry with a variable speed drill (160 or 220 volts? Monophase, 3 phase?) held by a lesbian albino lady in a red dress with yellow polka dots.
Nonsense?
Sure: fitting together family with divorce, "liberty", "independence", "equal rights", "democracy" is no smarter than playing a quartet to a chicken coop.
America has more psychologists and lawyers than any other country.
America also has the most spoiled brats.
The most divorces.
The worst anti male hostility.
The worst dope problems.
The worst racial conflicts (untrue, but it is politically correct. to say it).
When do we wake up and put our psycho socio pedagogue, orthopolitical package next to where the dodo bird is?
The Ten Commandments (without any “however”) are decidedly better, even if they are claimed to be only a “primitive” beginning...

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Several years ago, one of my chemists was a handsome and very pleasant Jung man from India, beside being a brilliant scientist.
His personal magnetism was obvious in any social environment. He could have dated or married almost any girl in America.

One day he told me that he had to return to India to meet and marry a Jung lady his parents had chosen for him.
To my standard Western questioning about arranged marriage without the primary love motivation, he came up with examples we both knew of countless love marriages that ended disastrously, or at any rate not as successfully as competently arranged marriages.

His reasoning was so disarming that I had to surrender to his posture, which became easier to understand the more I thought about it.
Among other things, one fact became more and more evident: being focused on each other, husband and wife have many temptations toward mutual hostile criticism and its consequences.
Even if that mutual focusing is in Italy motivated by love, which, by itself alone, is just an emotion, no matter how poetic or sacred.
Hollywood couples, the epitome of famous love unions, have an astounding frequency of failures and divorces.

When husband and wife both focus on a common interest (children, business, any activity or goal) instead of on each other, something is created like two parallel lines in the same direction that don't cross each other.
I would venture to say that more durable affection and togetherness can be more likely derived from common (obviously compatible too) goals than from love and sex alone.
Sounds unholy?
It is hard to deny that the observation, between love-bird lovers, "I don't love you any more like before" is disastrous, whereas the same observation by a simply affectionate spouse, or one like "I don't like to have one more child", is manageable.
I could have mentioned better examples, but that should suffice for now.

Family goes far beyond sexual gratification, for which dates and simple copulation would suffice, but the nucleus of life reproduction and nurture first, both sublimed in love.
Yet, family is now under attack by the government, lawyers, militant homosexuals, ultra-feminists, deconstructionists and leftist liberals.

Government delivered the first crippling blow by lowering the majority age from 21 to 18.

Removing parental control and protection from irresponsibility among the very Jung has been and is the closest to national cultural suicide. Besides, even among mature adults, the mere sex/love motivation can be just as irresponsible.
The devastating consequences show most obviously in our spectacularly high divorce rate.

As previously mentioned, our increased longevity and educational requirements alone should have raised majority age to at least 23 or 25.
Intrusive legislation added insult by giving bureaucrats arrogant power over the family.
"Aid To Dependent Children" and welfare penalized marriage and made father's involvement remarkably inconvenient.
Lawyers nailed the family's coffin with "No Fault Divorce", which injected malignancy in every marital difficulty. To the lawyers’’ delight,
Politicized psychologists defined homosexuality with a "normality" label that branded normal people as "heterosexuals".
This denied -or at least contaminated- the normality of male/female interaction in the reproductive familial reality.
Recognizing a claim-jumping homosexual marriage versus normal marriage puts homosexuals on an unnecessary collision course with the heterosexuals, and desecrates what should be sacred (at least as a concept) in conjunction with reproduction. ///

Marriage is upgraded by the family, not by a meddlesome government.
Considering marriage an unconditional right for the homosexuals facilitates a devious substitution of reproductive union with typically sterile fornication, ruthless toward the children (which makes partial-birth abortion easier than abstinence) and a pandering for votes by irresponsible voters, whose number increases as bellicose "entitlements" are dispensed like "wheat and games to the populace" (which inadvertently reveals politician's contempt for the general public. "Reelect me and the hell with you", or "Aprs moil le deluge").
Ultra-feminists, dictatorially man-hating persons (and ignorant of history), see family as woman enslavement and patriarchal oppression.

Deconstructionists, the enemies of our culture, are dedicated to the deactivation of the family and Western culture, which they aim to fragment with a malignant "multiculturalism".
They fear family as the nemesis of big government and leftist multiculturalism.
Nuclear and extended families harmonize in commonly agreed values and form the basis of democratic societies from the roots.
Big government is imposed from above through proliferating regulations to support bureaucracies and politicized organizations.

They contaminate America with victimization of workers, women, children, minorities and races, to fabricate a lynching mood against family, individual initiative, competition, un-politicized education, values and secularized religion.
Does anyone care?

SALVATION IN MULTIPLICATION

No one seems to dispute that members of the modern and prosperous nations deliberately limit the number of their children to a very minimum, while members of the poor "third world" nations tend to generate as many children as possible.
The reasons given are that more than one or two children are considered an unnecessary burden for sophisticated people who don't have the need of poor people to be supported in their old age by their children.

This situation, however, has produced the inescapable consequence that the population of the richest and most sophisticated nations is decreasing at an alarming rate, while the poorest nations are growing in a similarly alarming rate.
Furthermore, an unintended consequence is that the thus increasing number of older people percentage in low-reproducing rate nations causes the older people to become an unbearable burden for the younger ones.
Conclusion: reality proves that prosperous people have very similar reasons as the poor for producing as many children as possible...
(to be continued)

The following is a list of the components of that assurance:
1) The woman's main motivation must be not the pleasure of sex but the irresistible desire to generate a child.
2)The woman must be virgin before mating with her husband.
3) She must mate with only her husband and have no opportunity and willingness to mate with anyone else.
4) Her loyalty to her husband must be absolute, and adultery must be made impossible...
The main reason for woman's absolute sexual loyalty is the protection of f the truth about the child's paternity.
Before today's DMA scientific methods, the only foolproof method to ensure the paternity truth has been strict control

The objection against returning to "the old way" to make a marriage work is that the old ways don't work.
Therefore the new must be tried.
That could be valid only if the new were supported by better results.
Actually, the new style marriages have a much higher percentage of failures than the old style's.
Most American marriages ends in divorce. And repeated of every minute or even second of her life and activities. This problem deserves volumes and volumes written by spouses, parents and children. Absolutely not by "family lawyers.
Having only a legal assurance that my father is my biologic parent would be cruelly distressing.
The above might seem drastic to some, but not as irreversibly distressing and cruel as absence of paternity certainty.

[to be continued]
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No fault divorce, sex equality and lowering majority age to 18 years make things worse, like all scatterbrained initiatives to "improve" on the "old ways".
We believe we have found a solution or achieved improvement when we call any chance "improvement".
It was thought that divorce would protect the woman (man, of course, is considered wrong "a priori"), but nothing has victimized woman worse than "freeing" her from man and putting her on equal "competitive" (=hostile) footing.
We must try something else.
We could surely try the "old way" and call it "something else" or any other name.
That would make it acceptable.
It would prove how silly our last methods of choice have been.
It could dawn on us that neither the old nor the new ways can work if we lack self discipline and shared beliefs.
Family failed when we started to neglect the rules and self discipline that made it work in the past.
The traditional meaning of marriage is a built in commitment against separation and divorce.
In case of "irreconcilable" differences, the law should find a way to keep the family going, not how to tear it asunder.
Problems caused by laws to keep families together could not be as bad as those caused by divorces.
If normal children could vote without lawyer and psychologist counseling, for instance, there would hardly be any divorce.
Now, what matches the importance of our children in the family?
Spouses and parents have no rights to desert the duties that they adopted as permanent with the act of marriage.
People go to jail for tax delinquency and other infractions not as important as crimes against the family.
It is odd then, that we cannot consider similar punishments, rather than divorce, against "family duty delinquency".
A society in which taxes are better protected than the family doesn't deserve to survive.
The present bullies into the family to enforce independence of the mates against each other, instead of enforcing their freely contracted devotion to each other and to the children.
Marriage is not made for spoiled brats, and children are not their toys.
But the spoiled brats increased in number to get control, and made new laws.
The old rules were not nice toward the spoiled brats.
So, the spoiled brats stretched and cut and corrupted marriage on their pattern, until it lost life.
This is one of the many cases in which we have to wait for the boomerang to return to the starting point because it hit no target.
Divorce is a cancer in the social structure of U.S.A.
It appears that this cancer has many interests tied with new values.
Questioning the new values is taboo.
One set of new values hides behind "equal rights".
Few marriages can really survive /c family can only survive when one family member has the final word in cases of impasse.
Often we must face the choice of sacrificing the family to equal rights or equal rights to the family. The latter choice has always prevailed in the past by successful cultures who were not less sophisticated than ours.
Equal rights may be today's fetish, but they are still concepts and theories in a primitive stage.
Family is the reality.

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Those who predicate abortion would not have liked to be aborted.
Some say that divorce is often necessary to protect the children from the emotional damages caused by fighting parents.
This sounds reasonable until we examine what happens to the children after divorce.
The truth is that, normally, a bad marriage hurts the children much less than most divorces.
Love is sacred, but irrational and dangerous,if not disciplined. This fact is so little understood that it seriously undermines the success of marriage.
Marriage would have a more solid ground if it were based more on genetic, biological, social, psychological, financial and professional reasons.
Marriage's enduring purpose is family and children. The love which is now conventionally required for marriage is too ephemeral.
It is for lovers and lasts only until the two lovers start being serious about the real business of life.
The difference between marriage and a partnership is that, in marriage, each spouse is responsible for 100% of the shares.
Marriages that ignore it ends in failure, even if they don't notice it..
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Psychologists themselves don't know.
I am sure I lost my business because my lawyer refused to reveal his disastrous conflicts of interest that distorted his "ethics" against me!
About 2 millions of damages to me for the few thousands he would gain by betraying me?
Often, the fulfillment of a particular pleasure, virtue or advantage forces us to pay an unsuspected cruel price.

We require a license for driving, after a serious training and rigid test.
Marriage is by far more difficult, critical and significant than driving, often more than any diploma or career; but it is allowed without a learning period, test, or any proof of capability.
The unseen but tragically real consequences of such irresponsible (in spite of their intentions) behavior for the children may be hidden and horrible at the same time... And no one will know the consequences and remedies.
Is the most irresponsible and ignorant wish enough?
The more irresponsible and hurt the client, the more money goes to his/her divorce lawyer.

No reliable psychological systems are offered for a dependable marital compatibility test.
We dare not focus on the problem lest lawyers and politicians erect barrages to defend their divorce gold mines.
Divorce lawyers are the contributors to the divorce plague.
They have inscrutable laws, rules, procedures and hidden tricks that are revealed to the victims (“clients”) only too late, including hidden time limits and countless unspoken conventions unknown by the victims and revealed to them only too late...

USA claims to be the best society in the world, but it has the highest divorce rate in the world. That is, it has the most unstable families and society in the world.
No society in history has been able to survive a family situation like ours. That is, the unhappiest spouses, the most hurt children, who are therefore condemned to perpetuate the family crises when they marry.
The same psychologists who were forced by political pressures to declare homosexuality a “normal” behavior are now subtly conditioned into statements like “people cannot change...” (then, in parenthesis: “...unless they want to...”).
That traps the vast gullible majority of “normal” people into the wrong conclusion that “divorce is the only way”.

The same psychologists have discredited Freud’s
endeavors to motivate subconsciously reluctant people into changing themselves.
Divorce lawyers loathe people who prefer psychotherapy to divorce.

Marital and other family harmony problems are psychological or emotio-nal problems to be handled by psychologists and related professionals, not by lawyers.
Themore they fragment the family unity and finances, he more the lawyers gain.
As glibly as we approach marriage and family, we contrived divorce as a last money-making expedient instead of a solution.
Considering the quality of modern marriage, divorce takes a function of garbage disposal.
As it happens with many government agencies, divorce has become a self‑ perpetuating institution, with courts as its temples and lawyers as its greedy priests.
Politically, we have to promote more family destructions to protect the parasitic jobs of those who work in divorce-connected jobs...
What is more outrageous?
They have transformed a last recourse into a self spreading plague.
Most divorces are avoidable.
Many divorcees consider their own cases unavoidable because of the rationalizing process they trapped themselves in, especially if lawyers help... Then, their entire life is contaminated...

When any crisis comes, we can decide to overcome it or to push it to its culmination.
When the latter approach is taken, we start endless rationalizations that reinforce our divorce decision, to the shysters’ delight, like the criminally dishonest telephone charges for calls in which the “client: victims are lured into interminable phone conversations in
which some lawyers
(the shyster kind who contaminate the profession as a whole) have developed a Satanic skill to make the client speak and speak longer and longer to ruthlessly menacing impasses that would cause more incredible bills and troubles and more expenses IF THE VICTIM DIDN’T SONTINUE SPEAKING......
(at obscene phone $$$ per hour!)
Marriage used to be a sacrament.
It still is, but like a label on an bottle; and divorce is like a flatulence, because the bottle is full of unmentionable.
We hire lawyers who make the most money only if we tolerate the nefarious system...
We drain our energies and patrimony into a sewer... And the next generation pays invisible horrible prices...
And Satan guffaws...
While we are trying to save our harmony..,
keep what the other party wants...
We forget that we married for the opposite goal...
We cannot stop, lest the other party and lawyer plunge like vultures into our respite.
Ever hear a judge saying that the head of a family (man or woman) must be obeyed? No, because that would avoid a juicy divorce.
In a TV program I saw a heavenly messenger stating to worshiping believers that "family is a democracy"...
Really?
How can the children choose (before they are born?) elect, depose, reelect their parents or choose another natural father or mother? How can parents resign, or change (or cut in half) their children, or impose their unwillingness to honor their duty to the children they brought to this world?
Life and reproduction are inextricably connected to each otherand to the afterdeqth.
The active human family connection is inseparable father/mother/children love. Not just sex.
The active human family fragmentation is divorce. Not just lack of love.
And we spend the rest of our lives justifying our self-destructive decision with selective recollections and reinforcing rationalizations that assure us our choice was inevitable.
Of course, the other party was always wrong.
In reality, what made it inevitable was our crossing the threshold between overcoming the crisis and escalating it.
Help?
A real attorney, a shyster, or a psychologist can help each according to the wishes of the paying client, or according to their political or philosophical trend.
Vampires can thrive in many societies.
Once crossed over, the ensuing proceedings and the lawyers set the course on an automatic non‑stop.
The solution?
We should decide against divorce, at least in principle.
We are capable of bearing much more than we thought we could, no matter what attorneys (not the shysters) and psychologists may proclaim.
Remember, BOTH SPOUSES are financially deprived if we cannot avoid the pro-divorce help...
Their children are damaged most, and mostly for life.
Besides, the more we bear now, the less we suffer in the long run.
What if the other party doesn't go along?
Well, that is a temporary insanity on one side only.
We need re-education beyond lawyers and psychologists. They cannot help us to walk if we have given up our legs.
We should not be afraid to persist, cost it what it may, even what may seem futile...
Nothincg is unchangeable, including the apparently "hopeless" hostility of our opponents.
After all, a measure of our worth is our ability to cope with apparently impossible people.
Let’s say again that there is no merit in being nice only to nice persons.
In the overwhelming majority of cases, the long‑term advantages of accepting the challenge of a "second‑rate" marriage are far greater than the irreversibly ravages of any divorce.
When I was in Italy and divorce was still illegal, I remember a few cases of unhappy spouses hissing in anger to their spouses that it was a tragedy that they were not allowed to divorce...When I met them again years later, they were happy together and thanked the government and the tradition to have saved them from the tragic divorce blunder... in each of those families.
The divorce children subject alone would deserve many chapters.
Here, however, only one consideration should suffice: what would benefit the children more, or at all, marriage or divorce, both natural parents or just one?
Ask the children: if not permanently crippled by the divorce, still they offer a sobering answer.
Many parents want children the same way children want toys.
It is not difficult to imagine the educational quality in store for those toys.
What about the implicit right of the children to be born from responsible parents, above a minimum level of health, opportunities, comfort and training?
This alone should command laws and rules giving contents to the right and the manners of generating children.
At least, we should weigh the right and unavoidable duties of their children to be born healthy in a responsible environment.
Without these rules, procreating children is kept on a bestial level.
John J. P. Caporaso

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