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THE DIVORCE CANCER
Divorce is a curse that keeps contaminating irreversibly anything it touches, directly or indirectly.
It
can destroy not only families, but their progenies and entire nations.
It may sound like an exaggeration, but the frivolous instability it adds to he family as the backbone of society can be lethal.
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The best historical example of a comparable family and cultural disaster is how the Greeks hollowed their family in the 4th to 2nd centuries B. C. by permanently removing every little boy from his family to raise and transform him into a completely specialized warrior dedicated to fighting the continuous Asian attempts to invade Greece and Europe.
That erased the father moral and pedagogic function, the family reason to exist and the incentive to fight any invaders.
To save Europe amd themselves, the Romans had to occupy Greece and make it a Roman province . That made the Greeks Roman citizens and subject to the "Patria Potestas" (Paternal Authority) laws, which restored the patriarchal family and became the foundation of Western
Culture.
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A divorce lawyer can only prosper by helping spouses to kill their own family by fragmentation.
Killing any member of a family is not as virulent as the evil cancer spreading from killing the family unity and unconditional devotion.
Splitting the family for marital disagreements is like spraying a house fire with gasoline.
Together "until death does us part"
keeps the atmosphere
our short life needs for
facing the eternal truth, whether we have children or not.
Death is the threshold to more than just pious angels with clumsy wings and harps.
Then, the more we reject our pre-divorce life, the more we contaminate a past that is our unchangeable basis.
The most insidious consequence is that both divorcees and their children keep brainwashing themselves that divorce was the better choice.
In some American states, many lawyer-influenced politicians promote monstrosities like the "no-fault divorce" and enforced 50/50 glib wealth partition
Marriage for looks may make togetherness impossible when the looks are all there is.
We require a license for driving a car, after a proper test, which follows a serious training.
Marriage is by far more difficult, critical and significant than driving a car, often more than any diploma or career, but it is allowed without appropriate training period, test, or any proof of needed maturity.
An irresponsible wish is often enough.
Moreover, there are no public psychological systems capable of developing or testing a dependable marital compatibility test.
One gets away with the simple excuse that marriage is a "natural right".
The same as with animals.
Another natural "right" is to have children.
Many parents want children the same way children want toys.
It is not difficult to imagine the educational quality in store for those toys.
What about the implicit right of the children to be conceived and raIsed by responsible parents, above minimum levels of health, education, comfort and training?
This alone should command laws and rules giving contents to the right and the manners of generating children.
At least, we should weigh the right of parents to have children and the right of children to be conceived in a responsible environment with tested educational systems.
When I first married in Germany, my wife and I were tested against syphilis, like everybody else.
Ideally, they should have tested us also against
everyting else possible, including what caused us three deaths and found other parteners for the following two marriages... without counting other astounding destiny consequences... Probably my third wife would have conitued her single life and our handsome son would not have been born..
Without competent rules, procreating children is too often kept on a bestial level.
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many divorce lawyers intrude in our lives even worse than bulls in s china shops.
As glibly as we approach marriage and family, we contrived divorce as a really frivolous (perhaps criminal) expedient instead of a solution.
As it happens with many government agencies, divorce became a self perpetuating institution, with courts as its temples and greedy lawyers as its riests.
They transformed resourses into predatory plagues.
Are there any lawyers dedicated to restoring and/or improving family harmony and togetherness?
What about psychologists?
The glib discreditation of Freudian and other ppsychoanalysis brought psychology to a screeching disorientation and crisis in family therapy matters... and more money to greedy divorce lawyers.... and moe divorces.
Divorce is avoidable for those who believe in permanent marriage.
If the local customs accept divorce, a declared permanent marriage should still be protected from divorce.
My (ex)wife is a lawyer, thetefore she used legal ruses unknown to me, without waning me.
Thus I ended up living with invisible swords dangling over me and commitments without knowing.
Some sivorce trials seem to proceed as if only the "respondents" do not know the or anything in advance...
Of course, lawyers always find ways to rationalize everithig and to reveal the rules only after the game is over...
I also tried to have my objections published, but the newspaper is afraid to displease tne local lawyers...
That affects everything: even the Ten Commandments, by artiiculating a very professionally dignified but hypocritical
"..however...." after each
Commandment...
My wife had me falsely arested for something I did not do, by having a court order (she herself wrote it, as she had been the judge, instead of merely my opponent) served to me in weeksnd hours in which I could not hire a lawyer fron my jail.
Mind you: ours is the greatest DEMOCRACY in the world...
We can decide to overcome a
crisis, or start rationalizations that trap us into a divorce maze..
Marriage used to be a sacrament.
It still is, but it degenerated into a trap to squeeze money out of devastated families.
We cannot stop, lest the other party and lawyer plunge like vultures into our respite.
Ever hear a judge saying that the head of a family (man or womwn) must be honored and obeyed?
We are in a stage in which reasserting a truly patriarchal family with a father in charge (which has saved the Western Civilization for over 2,500 years).
Oopposed only by defeatist members of ciscredited groups..
Probably, only a catastrophic disaster could plunge us onto the proper mood to rediscover the patriarchal family..
In a TV program "Touched by an Angel", I saw a portly heavenly messenger stating to worshiping believers that "family is a democracy"...
Millions of people can listen to that blatant nonsense and absorb family degrading ideas.
How can the children choose (before they are born? ), elect, depose, reelect their parents or choose another natural(?) father or mother? How can parents resign, or change (or obliterate) their genetic blood and guidance ties, or dishonor their duties to the children they brought to this world?
Family ties, reproduction and devotion are inextricably connected to each other.
Beside death and entropic developments on levels not handled here, the proven purposes of family are reproduction, nurturing and permanent devotion.
The father/mother/children devotion can only be permanent; far beyond courts, opinions or sex.
Family prospers in mutual devotion and duties not in "adversary system" rights.
The worst family disconnection is divorce.
Animal love that cannot mature into permanent devotion is a time bomb for the human family and a gold mine for divorce lawyers..
We spend the rest of our lives justifying our divorce decision with selective one-dimensional recollections that assure us our divorce was inevitable.
AND WE BELIEVE IT ...
Of course, by twisting reality, the other spoue was always considered wrong .
All the victims of derailed reality and their children continue living the fraudulent reality, in a false belief that only (un)family lawyers can put together...
The moral A.I.D.S. spreads glorified.
Tthe "adversary system" reduces most differences into a one-dimnsional WINNING against hostile LOSING. So, the better and smarter ones are to be eliminated by any means, not honored and folowed...
In reality, what made it inevitable was our crossing the threshold between resolving the crisis and escalating it.
Help?
A shyster, the attorney or a psychologist can help the haplessly vulnerable client into or out of the divorce trap.
There are no public services to really help a family to avoid divorce and find a family-saving solution.
Just as revealing are the disguised efforts by the "family lawyers" on both petitioner and respondent sides to convince their clients how evil the other spouse is... so that the only solution is a ferocious and juicy divorce.
Unfortunately, vampires can thrive in many societies.
Yet, once crossed over, the adopted proceedings and the lawyers set the course on an automatic non-stop.
Tthe outrageously "practical" (really: arbitrary) pre-determination of what relevant subject must be made "irrelevant" for the trial...
The solution?
We should decide against divorce, at least in principle. Most people agree, but lawyers (whose present livelihood depends on divorce) are frantically working to increase and perpetuate divorces...
We are capable of bearing much more than we thought, no matter what attorneys and psychologists may assert.
Remember, BOTH SPOUSES are financially deprived if we use legal pro-divorce help...
Children are hurt mostly for life by divorce. Lawyers and many politicians conspire to hide this tragic truth.
Parents know it well, but expect judges and lawyers to use a magic wand that becomes a curse hey refuse to recognize.
Ttherefore divorce can brand the parents permanently.
To say that sometime divorce is best for the children requires sacrificing the children instead of straitening out the parents, lawyer and judges.
The latter often do what induces the lawyers to vote for them again..
Nothing is unchangeable, including the apparently "hopeless" hostility of our opponents.
It is an old truism that there is no merit in being nice only to a nice person...
In the overwhelming majority of cases, the long term advantages of honestly accepting the challenge of a "second rate" marriage are far greater than the irreversible ravages of divorce.
What would benefit the children and parents ?
Ask the children: usually they offer a sobering answer.
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[to be cotinued]
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The four most visible opponents of the family and Western Culture are:
[1] the Socialist “liberals”,
[2] the“family lawyers”.|
[3] the anti-family economic structure
[4] lowering male majority age to 18, rather than raising it to 23 or 25 years.
=== The Socialists consider the family as an impediment against their ideal society organized as a big worldwide anti-family community.
For them, the “nuclear” family (father/mother/children) model is "decadent", like everything not Socialistic.
=== The "family lawyers are dedicated to dismembering the family, instead of saving it.
I know or heard of no divorced spouse or child whose life was or is really better a couple of years after the divorce.
Worse yet, “NO-FAULT DIVORCE”, coupled with “50/50 mandatory WEALTH PARTITION” amount to a synergistic combination of evils that can become more destructive than a plague...
A productive, creative and devoted spouse can become the victim fly in the spider web of a parasitic, adulterous, dishonest companion who ends up grabbing 50% of all that is left....
Assurances that the law has solutions are only barriers erected to protect the perpetrators of the unmentionable tragedies.
Consider my case:
=== I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED 3 TIMES because of the system, not rathan because of my wife and/or me:
=== [1] My first wife was probably the most victimizsd.
We married in Heidelberg, Germany. We moved to Italy, then to Venezuela, finally to U.S.A.
We had 7 beautiful children. In 1959, I started a high-tech chemical mamufacturing business. My wife joined me as office and laboratory assistant. As she had great desire to return to Europe, I flew to Germany to start a manufacturing branch tnat she wanted and could manage for us there.
A lawyer and my salesman would assist her in USA in my 3 to 5 week absence.
I connected with an old German friend who joined us eagerly.
Troubles started soon: my wife was not sending the funds allocated for the enterprise, and the lawyer was never available... I ended up with no money and complete communication cut-off from my wife, the salesman and our lawyer...
As ungently needed, I plunged into buying and selling anything chemical and other I could between Eutopean countries in 5 languages, until I could fly back with 5 of my children who were spending some time with a German uncle .
Once back in Aamerica by surprise, I found my wife in a hpspital with an incredible skin swelling all over her body... (later, a psycholoist told me it was from a "guilt complex body scratching"...
They even managed to sell some of my plant equipment without my knowledge...
I had no time for law's delays and bought, processed and sold in vatious locations owned by kind friends, until I could rent a whole plant...
All back together when also my last 2 children came back from their vacations with my mother and sister in Italy...
Meanwhile, my wife's conditions worsened to the point that she was admitted in a state mental hospital.
Only then I learned that she had been "practically brainwashed" by our lawyer into improvising a sudden separation and an aborted fraudulent transfer of my money, equipment and estate, while I was in Germany... I just acted too fast for them to bury me alive...
Without bureaucratic delays, I obtained restitution of funds evidenced from forged checks my salesman thought I would not detect in time..
Only later I learned our lawyer was a "divorce lawyer" who could fool us because we grew up where imducements into divorce were (and are) a form of moral turpitude.
Amost no American legislator dares to correct such infamous rules and tragedies for innocent adults and children alike...
All legal means are in place to keep the victims unheard and unseen..
My Wife ran away from the hospital and disappeared.
Her lawyer said he had no idea where she was, no matter how I insisted to find it out.
Only a few years later, when she died in a car accident, I got more clues that he did not want us to come back together. To split families and prevent their reconciliation has worse effects than murder.
In a pro-divorce environment, the desire of a spouse to come back together is contaminated with lawyer's hostility and divorce pressures.
It was not easy for me, as father with 7 minor children alone in a big house, while running a busy chemical manufacturing business..
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1968: divorce became unavoidaboe for us all, plus estate and business, due to the local legal procedures.
1969: I married my second wife: beautiful, , with her 2 beautiful ittle daughters. They, plus my 4 sons and 3 daughters amounted to 9 children: the best group in town.
I arranged daily language activities that made them all really fluent in correct Italian and German too.
Yet, divorcees who have broken the first marriage devotion and the divorce -prone environment broke the mirror immage and:
1979:THIRD MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE
she was 33, (lawyer) and I (chemist and industrialist), 55. She was unable or unwilling to marry from a vatiety of men she dated only briefly.
We were both undesirable prospects: she for " lonely search for answers" and I for living alone with 6 minor children.
She was a lonely office lawyer employee in Chicago.
As we married, she moved from her 2-room apartment in Chicago to my 16-room brick Tudor (continuously alive with friends, parties and social events that were perhaps too much for my wife) on top of the most scenic hill in uppity Sleepy Hollow, IL.
After I bouth a 3-acre lot and plens ror building a mansion on it, she franticallly made me buy
a 23-room mansion in the best neighborhood in our town.
She delivered our beautiful son 9 months later.
My youngest daughter drom my firstn wite took care of him while the mother worked.
About 4-5 yeas later, she gradually started to work in my plant to be trained to inherit it.
She had no knowle---
I had not even been offered a corrective marital or business contract!
Meanwhile, In 2005, I developed the worst kind of "wet macular degeneration" blindness, just when I was about to complete my successful chemical formulations (adopted by the Government and Space Administration),_business plans to at least double the size of my corporation, while my wife was still in training.
That in spite of my worsening heart condition (ensitive to emotional stress, rather than to work or intellectual stress).
She suddenly filed for divorce, and the accompanying 50/50 insane
partition of everything, just when I meeded her most and I was striving to prepare her administraive takeover by nheritance...
Misinformed courts handle such cases by decreeing my argumentations, protests and requests as "irrelevant", as well as marginalizing the "respodent" defense...: the court could not allow a victim to reveal things the other lawyer dislikes... The judge has a big load of cases and must dispatch them to fit schedules....
My sight and hearing kept worseneng... to a point tha I ended up disconnenting in court because I could not see nor hear what was going on in the court room (and tests court evidence declared mine to be a "superior intelligence"..)
My lawyer did nothing to understand or help me incomprehensible reasons that I had to atribute to... local legal folklore...,presumably perceived only when it was too late for me to explain...
By a "slip of the tongue" after the last court event, I found our that my lawyer wa not allowed to act against my previous laywr's deserting me (simply absent) in the first court appearance on June 27 2006 and allowing no witnesses (my procuction manager, my office manager, my chief chemist, my shipping/receiving manager and the lab technician were about to come, when my unwanted (AGAINST MY WILL, not approved by me) substitute legal assistant lab rejected them.
My oppondnt's witnesses were only a receptionist and a newly rmployed office clerk.No one else wanted to testify for her.
Malpactice?
Lawyers told me I would need to pay a lawyer to claim malpratice. The lawyer is hostile if I don't pay $10,000 in advance before he only examines what it is all about...
They say the judge fears the shyster vendetta...
Well, the judge has to make a living too...
iMy witnnesses were scared away and resigned, exept the one who was then promoted as shipping manager (my undisputable 50-year jewel and unblemished pride is now beig temporarily overlooked but not ignored. Since 1959, my corporation, its products and rojects have been my exclusive creation. Transfering all to my heirs was mydesign anyhow.
also for tax easons...
The corporation is now sole property of a woman whom I was training to succeed me 100% as my heir. When the normal difficulties of implementaation induced us to cal legal help for smooothening the asperities, the lawyers made such a mess of incimpatiblities that we found ourselwed involved in adversarydivorce situation... I fired my lawyer because he only wanted me to attack the woman I love... and I lerearned how pracarious a new lawyer search can be. As the judge advised me to ask my wife lawyer for a reputable attorney, he hurled at me aprroximately: " Anything I;d do for you would only be to damage you, for that is what I am being paid for!", and that was it..., back to the worst of the Stone Age... (if they really were so obtuse)...
The technical and corporate intricacies of a chemical industrial enterprise cannot be handled like a paint store's and family law... Thus, all the two parties could do was to blame each other without end...
Yhe explosive pretzel...
3 lawyers have created a fetid atmosphere for themselves alone...
My lawyer sends me copy of a letter of the opposing lawyer that I must accept a complete renounce to yield full ownership of ,my corporation to my ex-wife-to-be, as well as to money received by her for selling my belongings while I was incapacitated by an accident... the judge and the other lawyer in q hurry qne my lqwyer ignoring my objection,as if I were from the Amazon jungleplus other surrenders... My lawyer adds his raccomendation that I will not surrender ...
Then, we go to court and I am commanded to sign wha no one reads to me (blind) I am told to yield and sign complete surrender...
I object. My objection is "irrelevant", JUST LIKE ME. What is the reason? "That is the way it is"...
Shysterism laughs in my irrelevant face...
To boot: a bill of $29,000 to the victim... Nothing that he did produced any other result than pleasing the other lawyer. Plus a punctiliously detailed itemization of iems I neve read before, for unneeded services I never ordered or agreed to...
What now: who is oing to re-progrqm that explosive ticking pretzel?
Think: we all agree, shake our head... and do nothing about it...
Well: we can crucify the victims who dare to protest, without a procedure which obliterates what the victim had to say... Irrelevant?
And he must pay or else, after being abused, amd goes back into oblivion.
Death resolves everything...
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If you marry in an American state with family protecting laws, and move to another state in USA, you assume that, being the marriage recognized in all the United States, you never investigate the possibilities that your marriage may be transformed into a cynical “no fault divorce” abomination...
No matter what the intentions or the spirit of the law was intended to be, the lawyers I have dealt with seemed to take special pleasure in assuring me that the law unabashedly favors the adulterers, liers, cheeters, abusers and any FAULT PERPETRATORS, apparently as long as they are the petitionrts.
If only some lawyers are so cynical, then I had the misfortune of falling into their claws.
ON THE OTHER HAND, THEY MAY WANT TO HURT ME BECAUSE OF MY presumed CONTEMPT FOR THE "NO FAULT DIVORCE" LAWS...
They also allow the petitioner to accuse the respondent without proof, as my wife accused me of harassment (her "no fault' ).
SHE HARASSED ME FOR 28 YEARS, BUT SHE FALSELY ACCUSED ME OF HARASSMENT, THEN SHE HAD ME FALSELY ARRESTED, AND EVEN EXSPELLED FROM MY 100% OWN PLANTWITHOUT ANY EVIDENCE OR EXPLANA ION.
THAT IS HOW I LOST MY 100% OWN 50-YEAR OLD CORPORATION WHICH I FOUNDED IN 1959.
|=== My wife declares she has lost or is keeping and refusing to return all my records, confidential formulations, (my personal intellectual property) other personal belongings, documents, family records and memories...
and other possessions I entrusted her with while I was incapacitated from 4 broken ribs and severe head concussion.
The no-fault law sounds desirable especiay for immoral and criminal people, but it can be ferociously destructive of family, society, morality and freedom (let alone the financial mess).
It protects and encourages irresponsibility, sadistic abuses, unlimited adultery, cruel immorality and unleashes nimaginable distortions in a childhood that neither social workers, laws, nor psychologists are prepared to face.
Can anyone dwell as long as needed on each of those mental and emotional cases as long and deeply as it deserves?
For instance, how can the true devotion of a loving spouse be cynically ignored by the law, if “no fault divorce” gives to one sadistic spouse the right to ignore the suffering the sudden desertion by one spouse can cause to the other and to the family?
And judges need to be re-elected by
those lawyers.
It would be like authorizing torture and suicide with Satanic indifference..
“Oh well, we are too busy to focus on it...”
that is our infamy...
One lawyer told me: "You must play by the rules, which are only concerned with law, not with morality or justice".
Which god blessed America?
The same as in a card game in which the rules are revealed only after the game is over...
What is the use of suggesting what the spouse should have done?
Will anyone remember the poor victims?
Well... Life goes on...
Many marriages fail because of disastrous consequences, unknown to the victims.
We are not aware or knowledgeable enough.
Nor are the lawyers eager to let us know how to choose a solution that helps the client, if it means less profit for the lawyer.